Dating : Not texting that much?
I went on a first date (from an app) with this guy last week. I could tell he was very nervous but eventually he warmed up and we had a lot to chat about. At the end of the date he told me how much fun he had etc etc, but I didn’t hear from him right away. I took the lead and said “hey I had a lot of fun – if you want to do that again here’s my number” . He texted me nearly immediately and we planned a second date slated this week. That being said, he has not texted me at all outside of just planning the date. Per my experience, this is super weird because usually if someone likes me, they text me pretty often! Has anyone else had this happen? I feel like it’s a good thing but I’m not sure if I should be trying to text him more or just let it be?
As a guy, sometimes I don’t like texting all that much because I feel like we might run out of things to talk about on the date
well you mentioned he was nervous so myb he is still abit nervous to take the first step and casual text you about stuff. Another theory is that he doesnt wanna get to know you by texting and is saving up for meeting you. My last theory is that this guy maybe arent a person who text alot. Either way I think its fine and if you really wanted you could try strike up a conversation and see how it responds 🙂
As a man: Texting offers me nothing – if the text ain’t to meet up – i don’t want to text – i’d rather draw/run/eat/watch tv/drink a beer/smoke some weed/scratch my balls than have to pick up my phone and text back and forth
He is most likely moving slow and wants to save the conversation for when you guys do meet up
as a 30 something year old woman, it’s exhausting texting back and fourth. I prefer face to face conversation. Different guys operate differently. Good luck, OP!
Reach out, you have nothing to lose! If he doesn’t respond again, the ball is in his court and he better make up a good excuse. That awkward communication after a first date is so fun.
Maybe he has some anxiety or thinks he might look to needy. Send a simple text saying something like ‘hey hows your week going. Mine is good, today I did ###########. See you on Friday 🙂 ‘
It’s not necessarily bad, you don’t need to overthink this.
texting often is beta af. I text to set dates unless we’re just getting to know each other (OLD). Even then I only text until I know I’m interested enough to ask you out. I can’t help you with shy guys, but I would imagine they’re the ones texting the most. Guys that approach/get approached IRL have no need to gas you up/talk all the time. We just say hey and ask you out – or wait until you ask us (if we have plenty of options).