Dating : Am I (18F) the only one that is uncomfortable with dating someone that’s younger than me
I’m uncomfortable with romantically talking to someone that is younger than me. I can’t even do one year younger than me…or even three months. Like you have to be at least my age but a few months older than me. Or you have to be older than me, but I extremely prefer someone that is older than me. This is such a picky but important preference of mine it’s so bad.
That’s because you are a woman. It’s common for women to prefer to date someone their own age or older while for males they tend to only want 20 year olds even when they’re 50 years old themselves.
For women its pretty common. Women date older, men date younger. Only difference is women have less options as they get older while mens only increases with age.
Woman tend to prefer older men, and at 18 the difference in maturity between a 17M and 18F can be a lot. However you’re saying you wouldn’t be okay with a guy 3 months younger but would be okay with someone 3 months older?
That doesn’t make a lot of sense. How would you even know that unless you had already gotten to know them fairly well? At which point you should have probably already come to a conclusion whether they are dateable or not. This sort of seems like an rule you made up for yourself. As you get older age difference should matter less and you should be more concerned with the character of the person over their age.
I wouldn‘t say it‘s picky. Most women prefer older men. Though, i think it‘s more about maturity rather than age. Like, what if you meet a guy that looks/acts like he‘s 23 and turns out to be 17. That a dealbreaker for you?
You‘re still young, when you‘re in your mid 20s you probably dont care if a guy is younger than you (assuming he is „mature“ enough for you).
Youre 18, so depending on what state you’re in you’re just following age of consent laws.
Why is it so bad?
Women and men have preferences on the type of person they want to date. Age does come into this. Dating is the one area where you’re allowed to have preferences. All you have to do is not let anyone give you crap because of those preferences.
when you’re 18 and you’re dating some fifteen-year-old , it may feel weird.
But it won’t be so weird when youre 30, dating some 27 year old.
And of course there are those 45 year old guys with 25 year old women, but it doesn’t mean they like some 5-year old kid when they were 25 years old.
So the older and younger age issue becomes less of an issue as you get older.
It will get more comfortable when you are older. When you are 30, then dating a 25 yr old may not be an issue for you. When you are 40. The 30 to 50 range might be your thing. As people age, the stages start to blend together, and it becomes more about attraction and mature behavior rather than actual age.
Why does he need to be older tbh? Is it a preference or a requirement?