Dating : Mixed race relationship advice – what is the easiest and hardest thing?
Actually asking for a friend who isn’t confident enough to ask on Reddit. He’s 28M dating 28F. He’s Asian ethnicity and she is white.
He wants to ask if anyone has advice for mixed race dating and relationships.
What’s been the easiest thing and what’s been the hardest thing?
My advice for entering a mixed race relationship is for both people to make an effort at understanding each other’s different backgrounds. For example paying attention to differences in culture, family dynamics, etc. can help to understand why your partner might be doing things one way or another.
I’m (23F) black and I’ve dated every race Asian (south Asian included), white, Latino, you name it lol
I think the easiest thing is you get to teach someone about your culture. The food, the music, the manners; when they’re open to it, it’s a beautiful learning experience.
I think the hardest thing was teaching the experience. The white guys didn’t always understand racism or why I’d get nervous around cops. It’s hard to explain microagressions to someone that’ll never experience them. Sometimes you have to avoid getting fetishized. “do you actually like me or do you like the way I look and you think that’s cool?” And then with some of the guys I dated (Asian) we kinda ultimately knew that their families wouldn’t have been okay with us dating long term.
Nothing needs to be harder or easier because of it. You just don’t mention race at all and leave it at that