Dating : No romantic spark 😵😵 ?
I [26M] went on 2 dates with a girl |27F] and we were messaging for over a month. After the second date, she ghosted me for 2 weeks and said that she didn’t find the romantic spark between us. I didnt understand it properly. What did she exactly mean ?? How do I change it next time ??
Thatâs what I tell my female friends when they set me up with their friends and it turns out their friends are fat. Not sure if that helps.
Are you serious? You couldnt figure out what she meant?
There is no chemistry. You canât force someone to have a physical chemistry with you. I say move on itâs okay youâre just not her type.
it meant what she said. No mystery to it.
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I would avoid messaging for a month with someone you have barely even met. It can come across as needy/desperate.
> How do I change it next time ??
You can’t. You must keep going on dates until there’s a spark.
Just means she didn’t feel any chemistry. It happens. There have been girls that I’ve seen, not many but a good amount, who were absolute knock outs that I had absolutely no desire to date. Their personalities, demeanor, or some unexplainable factor, just didn’t click with me. The same has happened the other way around too, women who probably didn’t think I was ugly but I just wasn’t what they were looking for.
Also, I think a big factor in this was that over the course of a month, you guys « messaged » each other almost daily, but only went out twice. If you want to build a romantic connection and sexual tension, you have to do this by interacting with the person in-person. If it stays on a screen, the desire eventually dies because it never evolves. For me, back when I used dating apps, I asked the girl out within a day of conversing with her on the app (did have a convo first though, to see if I actually liked the person). It shouldn’t take that long to figure out if the person you’re talking to is someone you’d want to go on a date with. After that, I’d try setting up dates within a week of each other, and maybe increase the frequency of meeting each other if things are going well. Bottom line, if 30 days pass and only 2 of those were spent actually seeing someone you want to date in person and the other 28 were spent texting, I’d be bored as fuck after a while. Frankly, it’s kind of wild that she even kept it up for that long. Live and learn man, you’ll be alright!
It means she’s not sexually attracted. And contrary to what many people here say, it is not only based on looks and there are certain behavioral improvements you can make that will make you more attractive to most women.
There wonât be a next time. She isnât interested in dating you.
She didn’t like you enough to bang you….
tell or show her how she makes you feel (flirting, teasing, the « I’ll fuck you right here » look, touching rubbing, petting, pecks) if she is receptive, do that…. I would verbalize my attraction to her first…
…. outside of that, you can’t change it
Move on