Dating : (22-Male) scared of making the first move on dates
So as background I didn’t start dating until this time last year after finally taking some better pics for tinder/hinge so I’m inexperienced for my age. I’ve been on 17 first dates since then but nothing past a third date or month-long relationship.
I always feel afraid to initiate the first kiss or even hold hands (I asked one if she wanted to hold hands once and she said yes but it was kind of cringe). My dates always end up feeling really platonic and they lose interest after a few ☹️. I only got physical with one girl and it’s because she took the lead across the board.
I feel like I don’t see the « social cues » to know what its appropriate to break the touch barrier, but my friends say I should just go for it since the girl agreed on another date.
I have a 2nd date coming up with a girl I really clicked with conversationally and I don’t want to screw it up again. She’s also significantly taller than me so I feel like finding a moment for a kiss is going to be even harder. Also I live with my parents so all my dates are in somewhat public areas.
A crazy lesson I learned many years ago: She wants you to grab her tits.
You can always say « I really want to kiss, may I ? »It actually comes off as quite confident as your date could say no so unlikely you’ll get a no answer.
Breaking the touch barrier – shake her hand, go for a Hug when first meeting.
Also recommend not Over thinking. Try to think I this was your group of mates, you don’t overthink when conversing with them so this shouldn’t be any different.
You’ve got this!
All the best