Dating : [24f] Feel something is missing with him but I don’t actually know what it is.
We have been on five dates now. All of them lasting all day, quite intense.
I have a good time with him. I feel totally comfortable around him and we have deep conversations. He’s kind hearted and caring, successful and wants a LTR. Sure I wouldn’t say I’m physically attracted to him massively – at least not in the way I’ve been attracted to guys in the past. But I don’t want to let something that superficial ruin it so I’ve kept dating him. Also, I’m pretty average myself so I can’t really expect a supermodel.
I’m not dating anyone else currently. There is a guy who only wants sex that hits me up but I haven’t been entertaining him at all.
The thing is, he asked me about the potential for being official yesterday. He basically told me that he wanted to be, soon. I like cuddling him and holding hands but kissing him and doing anything sexual just doesn’t do it for me. I’ve tried so many dates but it feels like there’s something missing. Something scares me about making it official with him because it feels like there’s something missing but I can’t put my finger on it at all and it’s really bugging me. Is it just me being scared of a relationship (I’ve been burned before)? Am I just superficial? Is this maybe how a stable relationship feels like and if so should I keep dating him?
**tldr** Dating a man who seems right in every way but I just feel something missing that I can’t put my finger on. Should I ignore it and be his girlfriend anyway because it’s not a good or solid reason?
It’s not superficial if it’s not working out in your head and even if it was superficial it’s your choice.
You stated he is a text book great guy but you still feel uncomfortable moving forward to a romantic relationship. The questions you need to ask yourself are; do you genuinely attracted to the guy’s personality, do you see yourself ever being physical involved with him, if you feel uncomfortable why are you justifying staying, am I staying because I don’t want to hurt the guy?
It seems like this guy ticks all the boxes except for physical attraction. Dating is getting a good combination of attractiveness and personality. Sex with this guy doesn’t appeal to you which means he isn’t attractive to you. It wouldn’t be fair to start a relationship with him if you aren’t going to be intimate or dont want to be.
Don’t make it official until it feels right. Until then continue to date him?
There’s none of that fire we all look for. Move on