Dating : 27 just got out of a long term relationship
I’m 27 and recently got out of a long term relationship. I would like advice on what to do with life now. I am at a turning point here and I would love to find a wife to settle down and have children.
However, I haven’t dated around much so I have trouble knowing what I really want since I was so absorbed in the last relationship and ended up not balancing out my relationship with friends and seeking new friends. So I ended up not having many friends. It is rough.
Further more, I am just an average male so it have been pretty difficult to find a date on tinder, hinge, and bumble.
Any advice will be appreciated. Thank you very much!
Don’t waste money, time and effort on dating sites. Get out and do things and meet friends and potential matches.
Also, try to get a hold of old friends. If they were true friends, they will forgive you.
Good luck to you!
First of all, welcome back to the wild. It’s not as bad out here are you may think. I’m an average woman on dating sites and I do ok.
My best advice would be to just not waste time w anyone who isnt consistent, leaning forward, or uninteresting to you. Be up front about wanting to settle down and have kids. While it may send many women running for the hills, you’re way more likely to find someone on the same page as you. I found that when I just started telling dates what I really wanted I was able to focus my time on people who were like minded.
Just enjoy the ride. Dating is weird haha.
Take some time to learn to walk again, so to speak. Use dating apps, but do not rely on them. Spend a few minutes swiping and then close it for the day, but mix that in with going out and being social. Dating apps should be a tool to increase your dating pool, and can be extremely helpful, but should not be your only source of potential dates.
Reconnect with old friends, and also spend time by yourself doing the things you love. Go to the zoo, or the aquarium, or a hike, or take a painting class and just enjoy the time alone. On top of having an enjoyable time, you will be creating experiences to talk about when you end up on a date.
Take dating slowly and be open to try all sorts of new things. If you can balance it, don’t be afraid to date multiple people at the same time. You can fish with one rod, but you’ll have better luck with a few more lines in the water.
Most importantly, reflect on your last relationship and keep in mind the traps that you fell into. Keep an eye out for them this time.
I spent 8 years in a relationship from 17 to 25 and then became single for the first time in my adult life, so I know what you’re going through. This time can be really awesome, but you only get out of it what you put into it.
Good luck out there.
Ask yourself Ab honest question, are you ready to date again given you are just out of a relationship
Spend a year getting the best shape of your life, working Hard to get money and Reading books to be smarter, after that, go find somebody else.
No pain no gain. Its time to Work on yourself. dont try to rush findind another one soon, do It when you get the best version of you, so the New one Will be much better than the last.
Average woman here, and I ended up meeting my hubby on OLD (Match, for reference). Free online dating was scary, paid sites were better, but still got the occasional wealthier creep haha.
I saw someone recommended groups (hiking, DnD, book club, whatever you’re into), and I think that’s the advice I would’ve given my younger self.
I took the time to get back into reading which I had set aside for a previous ex that HATED I spent time not paying attention to him. Now I’m married to someone who thinks it’s smart/attractive that I read so much.
My final advice is just to make sure you’re dating someone who lets you be yourself. It makes it less likely to abandon your likes/activities/friends ❤