Dating : A guy who never gave me a chance apologize to me recently: it really not you it’s them.

Dating : A guy who never gave me a chance apologize to me recently: it really not you it’s them.

So this is more an uplifting post for people who have a hard time finding love. If I feel like it, I might post up the messages (I have to edit them first) but I explain what happened recently. So this guy was the guy that finally made me gave up on online dating. What happened was we only had one conversation but the guy was a jerk he mentions he was talking to an 18-year-old from Alaska (it got creepy saying he has feelings for her when she was 16 and blah blah blah) and basically he feels like he was meant to be with her. But he might change his mind if I gave him a handjob. I had enough of this bullshit and gave up online dating entirely I was tired talking to jerks and weirdos. Anyway, this week out of nowhere he messages me on snapchat asking me who I was because he didn’t remember me. I didn’t remember him until I realize it was him, and mention this to him. I mention he was the reason why I gave up online dating. He was being weird and for some reason said « whoa wrong guy I never ask someone to give up online dating » I said « no you did xyz which made me gave it up ». He says after « damn I didn’t think what I did effect you » and I explain why it did for the record I do not have feelings for him but I am just tired of this disrespect I been getting a lot from these guys on Okcupid for the last 2 years. Like I didn’t do anything to this guy and he just didn’t want to give me a chance back then. He said the reason why he said that because he knew we weren’t going to work out and I was fine with that because even if he changes his mind now I am not open to dating him I am not even open being his friend at all after this conversation. Long story short he admits he made up the Alaska girl so he could kill whatever we had before it even started. He apologizes and for the first time, he was admitting he was an asshole in the situation (usually the guys I dealt with refuse to acknowledge what they did and rather verbally berate me). he didn’t berate he acknowledges what he did and was honest with the lying I ask him why he didn’t want to give me a chance but he never answers. But after this exchange, I finally feel better about online dating and I feel I got closure. No, I didn’t date him but I just want to know why I wasn’t even good enough, when you been constantly rejected and have no answer for it you just want to know why. I thought about it and realize I’m not the problem I think deep down I blame myself a lot after talking to him like maybe I am too clingy maybe too boring etc. But this guy clearly is immature and has a ton of issues I mean who makes up a whole story about an Alaska girl when he could have been honest from the start. It’s not you that’s the problem it really is them which is why you two didn’t work. I realize all the other guys that didn’t work out it wasn’t me either it was them, they didn’t say why but I feel better now seeing reality in these situations. I wrote this to help anyone who feels like they are doing something wrong and they are the problem in dating, it really is not you :). BTW, since we stop talking no girl willing to give him a shot on the site we talk on apparently he been single since I wonder why.