Dating : When is it okay to discuss the prospect of you two?
I’m curious when you all feel it is a good time to discuss how the two of you are working. I’m not talking about relationship conversation, or something farther down the line, but rather a check in to see how the two of you are feeling about each other up to that point.
How many dates, would you say?
Also, how does one approach such a conversation. I’m asking because I struggle with initiating this type of conversation, as I don’t want to seem like I’m jumping in far more than the other person, but honest and open communication needs to start at some point.
Well I know after my 4th date with my gf I asked her to actually be my gf and to go exclusive…. part of that covered the whole « how do we feel about each other » topic.
However, I’m pretty direct and stuff so instead of stating a timeframe I would say the best time to talk about it is probably around the time you feel that you would happily stop looking for other dates, come off the websites and go exclusive…. when you feel you could do that, that seems like a good time to discuss it.
I agonize about things like this myself and have come to realize that there is no formula or « right way » of doing things. Whatever feels right to you is probably right; communicating with comprehension is the real key. I have gone out with a few people more than 4 or 5 times and never had the « what are we » talk. I have also dated people who asked if I would be comfortable being exclusive from the first date. Trust your instincts, be respectful of yourself and the other person, and be honest.