Dating : Am I being petty?
So I’ve realized that I instantly swipe left on people who don’t know difference between your and you’re. Just a major turn off for me. At the same time I have a fear of missing out, what if I just swiped left on a great guy just because I’m being snobby? Because I don’t know how else to explain why this turns me off so much.
Any advice or input is appreciated.
I probably must mention that I’m an expat and English is not my native language.
In the age of small keyboards and shitty auto correct, it’s pretty petty.
I guess you can just hope that the love of your life doesn’t swipe left on you because of some arbitrary thing.
It’s okay to set filters for things that matter, but unless you are physically sickened by poor grammar and feel like it’s not worth trying to correct, I’d say keep your options open.
If you are swimming in dating opportunities though then by all means pass on anyone you please.
Yeah, I’d say that’s pretty judgemental going off of a tinder bio – arguably the least important part of the profile. Wait until you have a discussion to see if he can write properly.
Meh. That annoys me too but we all make mistakes or don’t know things in life. However, if these grammatical errors exist and they use made up shorthand like ‘n’ for and, I’m done with them pretty quickly.
I’m the same, and I don’t find it « snobby » or anything of the sort. I know myself well enough to know that I need to be intellectually stimulated in a relationship, and I can tell by a bio whether it’s going to be an issue or not.
It’s just part of the filtering system we all do. You decide what things matter to you, and what things don’t. Some people won’t date people who have tattoos or piercings. Some won’t date guys who don’t work full time. Others might not want to date a woman who has a kid. You could say that each of those things makes a person snobby.. or just accept that not every person is going to be your flavour, and that’s ok.
Remember, you aren’t judging these people in any negative way.. only deciding they aren’t for you 😉
Yeah, petty. And I’m a writer/editor. I want to correct restaurant menus that confuse compliment with complement. But I had to get over myself. My ex H is a horrible speller but is extremely smart. Overall intelligence doesn’t have much to do with spelling.
I don’t think it’s petty if it’s on the profile itself. Spellcheck exists and you should be putting out your best impression. If it comes up during chatting and you stop talking to them for that reason? Then I think it’s petty.
It’s kind of petty. If you really had high standards you probably wouldn’t be on Tinder at all.
Don’t forget some people have things like dyslexia
probably not the weirdest reason to swipe left. Some people cast their votes depending or not whether the candidate has an « O » in their name or not.
You are under no obligation to give anybody a chance if you don’t want to. When choosing whom to waste your time on, you can be as discerning as you want to. You probably miss out on some awesome interactions.
I do have to say, as far as reasons go, it is a pretty stupid one. But does that really matter in this context?
Yes. It bugs me too because I studied English but every now and then you have to give someone a chance. Be careful you aren’t just finding reasons to reject someone. How do you even do this if you’ve reached texting?
that’s your deal breaker and if yoo find people like that then go ahead and don’t even contact them
Yeah it’s petty. I know the difference sometimes my phone changes it. Also I don’t really care about grammar unless like every word is misspelled
Yes.
One of my best friends is just about the best guy I know but hes not super book smart. He’s attractive, funny, makes good money, and has his own place but in this digital world I see him strike out left and right because he cant spell very well and grammar is far from being a strong suit of his. Hes such a sweetheart, it makes me sad sometimes. Just good for thought.