Dating : Am I being too sensitive?
I’ve been seeing this guy for about 3 months. Recently things between us have been going well and I feel like it is official even though we haven’t defined it yet. If I stay the night at his house I will fix his bed in the morning and wash a few of the dishes if they are left over from dinner the night before. So last night when we got back from the beach we were carrying in bags and he made a joke about me carrying in some of the bags (I can’t remember exactly how it started) but then I said I do a lot for him.. and he said “like what fix the bed?” and then I said and I wash dishes for you.. and then he proceeded to say yea except that blender you left in the sink the other day ( he makes shakes in the morning before he goes to work). He told me he was kidding but for some reason I took offense to this comment. Am I in the wrong? Am I being too sensitive?
You’re doing too much, my love! You just might be a sensitive person that shows love and affection by acts of service. Perhaps tone it down until there’s more stability and clarity when it comes to y’all’s status.
He sounds entitled. You don’t have to do these things, and he seems to be letting you know he doesn’t appreciate them and looks for fault to find.
Who told you to start making his bed and doing dishes? You are not his wife!! Don’t give any random guy those kinds of privileges.
If I had someone I was seeing stay over and do those things for me I would be so happy, I have 0 expectations of anyone invited over to do anything other than be company! Guys a fucking idiot
As someone who put up with this kind of thing for over a decade, please get out now. I was never doing enough for him, or good enough for him in some way and whenever I would get upset he would say I was being too sensitive, or couldn’t take a joke. I know now those type of comments were just so he didn’t have to take responsibility for being a jerk – it was easier to make it my responsibility for being “too sensitive.”
I literally spent a whole day meal prepping lunches for him and when I showed him he said “thanks – I’ll try to remember this when I’m thinking you don’t do much around the house.”
I had low self-esteem so I exhausted myself trying to do “more” and “better” until I burnt myself completely out and realized he would just never be satisfied.
Listen, I’m all for some teasing in a relationship. But if that teasing is all about not appreciating your partner, don’t act like they’re the crazy one for not feeling appreciated.
No you are not boo
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Ur acting like a maid and ur too sensitive.
As long as he didn’t say ur exclusive, ur friends W/ benefit for now.