Dating : Are women not interested in me because I’m autistic?
On my bumble account I still haven’t gotten any likes yet and I’ve just made it a week ago. I know my bio doesn’t sound boring and I put different pictures in my profile. I’m not sure if bumble is not showing my profile or I’m just a uninteresting guy that woman are not interested in. The only thing I want out of it is something that will lead to marriage in the future. I also sometimes feel like women are not interested in having a relationship with me because I’m autistic. So is my disability the reason why women are not interested in me? Because it’s not my fault I’m born like this.
Probably yes unfortunately, And also online dating sucks for men so it could be that.
Maybe look for other autistic individuals? Maybe an autism awareness dating group?
I’m a fringe metal fan. A really good friend of mine is hard-core metal, and by association, I’ve roadied for her now ex boyfriend’s band a few times. Got to see Slayer twice out of the deal, along with a host of lesser known groups.
From what I’ve seen in the metal subculture, I’d say your best bet for meeting someone not in person is the assorted metal forums and discords. Be genuine, and be real. For the love of black metal, that is truly what metal is about: taking life as it comes and not giving a fuck about how anyone else feels about it.
Go to shows as often as possible, and meet people! It’s a relatively small community, and you’ll start to see the same people over and over at your local venues.
And you’re right, your autism will likely show through, but in all its about the music first and foremost. Just do yourself a favor, and ignore the grindcore girls… yikes.
Welcome to being an average man on dating apps.
We get nothing. It’s not your autism.
I’ve found that very few people message me on any social media. It’s really just lack of representation. They have an algorithm, and it works similar to tinder. Most people who like you show up first, and most other people probably don’t exist.
If this is the case, I imagine it will work to your advantage in the long run. I am SO GLAD that my partner isn’t neurotypical, we take the time to understand and work around each other’s particular divergent quirks in a way that I don’t think we could easily do with someone ‘normal’.
Take your time, download some other dating apps as well and cast a wide net, and find the neurodivergent person of your dreams. They’re deffinately out there looking for you and thinking the same thing.
Bumble is just ass in general so it could be that for example I have like 100-110 matches on tinder in the last 3 months. I have exactly 3 on bumble in that same time period so yea…, but don’t let it get u down online dating can be brutal keep ur head up.
Im an autistic guy aswell but ket me give you a hint. Dont ever make autism a « disability » if you act like it is, it will be. I have learned to reason with my autism but dating (especially online) is not working out at all. The problem im seeing with most dating apps/sites is that the girls on these platforms dont seem to want the same thing as i do. I got bumble for about a year or so and i only ever had one girl talk to me. But dont let this get you down. If you can try to do something out of your comfort zone out in the world. This helped me personally more than i realized at first.
TLDR: Dont let autism define you, define what autism means to you.
It sucks, but autism adhd, OCD and any other condition can be too much for people to handle. There are lots of quirks that turns people off. It sucks but that is the way it is.
Even with that it is best to be up front about it. Who knows your future match might have some form of ASD as well.
Do you put that you’re autistic in your bio?
You’ve got a long road ahead of you. I saw some statistic that there are around 5 men for every woman on dating apps… it’s just the nature of the game for men
I was once in love with someone who had autism. So no, to answer.
Most people just swipe based on the pictures so it’s probably more the metal band tshirts and long hair.
Hmm I don’t use bumble but let’s say girls have different tastes and preferences. Depending on who you are and what you’re seeking, make yourself presentable. Dslr like pics, good lighting, and friends will work wonders.
Show that you 1) have a life and enjoy it and 2) show off some of your hobbies and interests. Girls love that.
Most men on online dating get no matches either, autistic or not, so while being Autistic could definitely make dating more difficult, it’s not really the reason you are getting no likes