Dating : At what age do you start feeling ashamed of being single?
The tittle says everything. What you guys think?
People are getting engaged and i cant fcking get a single date.
Its so sad and embarrassing.
I cant even tell how many dreams i have often where im in a relationship and wake up and im completely single and lonely.
Im so ashamed of going around and seeing other couples while i have to pretend that i am okay having no relationship.
At some point it starts to affect you physically, mentally, emotionally.
Sorry about the venting.
Totally understand what you mean honestly, I’m 28F and really affecting me now more than ever. All my best friends are engaged. Meanwhile I keep getting fked over by tinder dudes. Levels lol.
I’m older and have NEVER been ashamed of being single. I knew from a young age that marriage and children weren’t that appealing to me; that’s not to say I haven’t had relationships (and the occasional FWB) along the way that I have fully enjoyed (and when I show up at a function with a man 20 years my junior, that really sets some people off and makes it that much more delicious!!!). I have, but I’ve also enjoyed my freedom and independence. Maybe it sounds selfish, but if I want to do something…I just do it and I don’t have to answer to anyone. I’m fortunate to have some like-minded friends. Want to go out for dinner?? Don’t need to find a babysitter!!! Want to fly to Hawaii for a week?? No problem!!!
When I look back on my experiences so far, I have had an incredibly fun-filled, experience-rich life, one that I wouldn’t have had otherwise. Did I miss out on things along the way? Maybe. But my married friends have missed out on some things too. It’s all about what YOU value, and sometimes those things change along the way, but sometimes they don’t. If you’re happy in your own skin, it doesn’t matter what others say or do. Be true to yourself.
never – why should i? but i would be kinda ashamed to feel bad because i am single… you only life once… dont waste your life beeing ashamed.
I’m 30 and I feel I missed the heyday of dating. I’m now at the point where it’s hard to see myself in a relationship
Why would anyone on their right mind be ashamed of being single?
I am single and i feel sad for my friends who are married so young and missing out on life and missing so many women out there to have casual sex with…
I am sad for them but I don’t know how i can help them get out of that nightmare they got themselves into.
I’ve never had any good experiences being in a relationship so I don’t feel remotely ashamed of being single and 30 as a man.
It’s being in a relationship or marriage that sounds like a nightmare to me.
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21, single my whole life, and no shame yet
No shame in being single. I’ve only had one LTR that last 6 years (from 28-34). I had such fun in my 20s and I’ve had so much fun in the last 1.5 years of being single. If you can’t enjoy your time alone, you’re not ready to be with someone. If you are ready, then really invest time and energy into casual dating and don’t just sleep with people right away. Ask friends, coworkers,, and family to set you up. Hit the dating apps hard and be honest about what you’re looking for. Join every one and tell every person that you’re looking for serious but starting off casual and not jumping in the sac. Go to therapy and keep improving yourself (this isn’t a dig, I firmly believe every human needs therapy to be their best selves). Do the things you want to do as a couple but do them alone. Or with friends.
Singledom doesn’t have to mean misery.
I only feel ashamed when people ask me why I’m still single. Rather than saying what I want to say about the subject I pretty much shrug my shoulders. I am 45 and I’ve had to either change the subject when asked about my relationship history or say I don’t know. It sucks but I’ve lost any kind of hope. Some of my friends went overseas and met someone. I just can’t do it
You have no reason to feel ashamed. I think its more of of an envy thing vs shame.
I was single a long time, working night shifts. So I really didn’t even have a good chance of meeting someone in person.
Now for the longest time, I had a bad taste in my mouth about dating apps. My first try I got catfished…
But I hung in there and eventually, about 7 months after downloading. I finally found someone who would talk to me all the time, and even stay up as late as possible to text me when I was at work.
Your going to find your person, I’d be willing to bet itl be when you’ve all but stopped looking.
Work on yourself don’t try and change for anyone. And someone will find you and both of you will help shape eachother in the most positive way.
Shame is a function of the perception of those around you. If everyone is getting engaged and married, it may feel natural to be ashamed of being single.
I’m 36/m and I’m single by choice. I don’t date, I don’t have any type of romantic relationships. I’m not embarrassed or ashamed about it because I’ve tried it and it always failed miserably. I do have 3 kids though and that helps because I’m dedicated to them. But when it’s a decision you make with sound reasoning, then there’s nothing to feel ashamed of.
I’ve been single for so long that I can’t really think of myself in a relationship. So much would have to change in my life if I got into a committed relationship, and it’s scary. I get the feeling bad when you see/hear about friends making the leap, getting into relationships and getting married, and it feels bad being the only single friend in my group. I am not happy single, but I just don’t think it’s going to change. I think the only thing that can be done is to try and focus on other things, as much as you can.
I’m 29m haven’t been in a relationship since I was about 23. My years since have been very down and depressing so I didn’t want to bring burden anybody with that energy. But I’ve just been working on myself all these years. I don’t get embarrassed or ashamed at all. I could live like this forever if I wanted. Plus I’m saving alot of money. But I know eventually I will want to settle with a family
.. my time is ticking
I am 21m and still ok. I guess i will be still ok when old too
Dude may I dm you?? We could talk better??
30yr old single parent with one child. Honestly, no shame here in being single. Most of my friends are already married with kids of their own. I get the mental and emotional troubles behind being single. Sure having a child might offset some of that, but it certainly isn’t the same as having a SO. I’ve just learned how to focus on myself and if I find someone, then I find someone. My only suggestion would be to try and focus on things that bring you a bit of happiness or contentment (I know it still can’t compare, but it’ll help a tad)