Dating : Be transparent about who you are!

Dating : Be transparent about who you are!

I’m so tired of guys telling me they meet my needs and then months into dating I find out they’re the exact opposite. At that point I’ve already developed feelings and have invested my time and energy into making it work. Sure no one’s gonna check all the boxes but this lying and manipulation in order to date me is so hurtful.

Nobody wants to fall in love with someone who’s only pretending to be the things they want them to be. There’s only so much pretending one can actually do. You’re gonna burn out. You’ll never meet the other person’s needs and they’ll eventually find out. It’s better to be transparent about who you are and what you’re looking for.

Recently I pursued a relationship with a person who I thought shared the same values and attitudes towards life. I always make it a point to let guys know how I feel and what I’m looking for so that I don’t waste any of our time. When I did that shortly after we met he made it seem as if I had nothing to worry about. However after five months of dating we had a conversation that revealed to me that he didn’t believe any of the things that was so valuable to me. Mind you I asked him about these topics directly and he still chose to deceive me.

Idk bottom line is that I’m begging people to be who they are and let people fall in love with them for themselves not who the person wants you to be.