Dating : Burned out from dating, but also tired of being single

Dating : Burned out from dating, but also tired of being single

24yo female. I’ve been on a *lot* of dates over the last few years, but nothing’s stuck. In fact, minus a couple of brief little romances, I have been single for eight years. Yeah, eight. I’m just never really *into* people I date (or, if I am, they aren’t feeling it). It’s gotten exhausting, to the point where I got off of all dating apps and sites, and am now exclusively dating irl, which… well, it’s meh (my community college is socially dead, so meeting people is a real challenge at the moment).

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I’m just tired of dating, but I also don’t want to consign myself to being alone. Everyone in my friend circle is happily married or engaged, and I’m the awkward idiot who doesn’t even bring a plus one to their weddings. I do *want* to be in a relationship. I *want* to learn about someone’s hobbies and musical tastes. But I also don’t want to be in a relationship just for the sake of being in one, where I’m not totally invested. I mean, that’s not at all fair to the other person. I just feel like I’m broken. There are so many people who seem *fine* around me, but I can’t force myself to be interested in them. If I am interested, they’re either married, in a relationship, live across the world, or just aren’t interested.

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So, Idk. I feel like no matter how much energy I pour into dating, it’s never going to work out. But if I don’t pour any energy into it, it’s also never going to work out. But it’s hard to pour energy into it when I’m out of energy to pour, you know?

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I’m not looking for advice or anything, just venting. The whole dating process sucks.