Dating : Can I bring up the talk after the third date?
I met a girl via a dating app and we’re going on our 3rd date this week. I know she’s been meeting other guys on the app and I would like to see if she has interest in me or if she just thinks that we should be friends. Is it fine to just straight up ask her?
If the first two dates went AMAZINGLY well and you’re very sure she’s super into you (like stay up all night holding hands talking about shit), then yes, a third date is long enough to talk about how you guys feel about seeing each other exclusively or not.
But not if they were just mediocre average everyday dates.
Basically – it has nothing to do with which # date you’re on, the exclusivity talk comes when you guys have built up enough of a relationship to where it’s at least somewhat clear or implied that you both want to give it a real shot. (Or to clarify the situation after like 10 dates where it’s unreasonable to still not have made a decision…)
But I mean, you definitely CAN if you want to get clarity now. But I highly suggest against it unless it’s pretty clear she’s legitimately interested in you at this point already as she may personally still be unsure and adding pressure there may just turn her away, especially if she has many other options.