Dating : Can I get some advice please?
I’ve been dating my boyfriend for around three months now (not a long time I know). But in these three months, there’s been about one break up scare and a lot of stress. Stress that originates from his parents not approving of our relationship because of the two year age gap (Me:16, Him: 18). Something that I don’t blame them for but caused lots and lots of stress. Now, the core reason why I was going to break up with him the first time was his parents’ solution to our age gap. Which was to break up and either get back together once I’m 18 or break up and mostly stop talking. But after loads and loads of conversation about this, we decided to stay together. And everything was going pretty chill until around the beginning of July. This is where I noticed a sudden change in our relationship. For example, we went from talking multiple times throughout a day, to me sending him a text and getting a semi-reply hours later. At first, I let it go because he’s busy and we have two separate lives he’s not going to be able to reply all the time you know. But after a week or two of this continuing, I shot him a message telling him how I felt about it. He replied with saying that he would try to make more time and that he’s been busy. And with that our relationship started going back to semi-normal, but this didn’t last for more than a couple days. This was kind of hard on me because I felt like he didn’t want to talk to me and after numerous times of me trying to talk to him I gave up. (Btw, we called like two times, but they both resulted in him hanging out for no apparent reason.) Things haven’t changed much, and for the most part, I’m pretty set on breaking up with him. Because I don’t want to keep on putting my happiness on the line for someone who doesn’t seem interested in me. If you’ve been through something similar or have any advice, please comment down below!
TL;DR Boyfriends parents don’t like age gap and boyfriend ignoring me
I’m gonna be honest with you chief. Most relationships around that age do not last long. And honestly they’re not meant to. If it’s causing you this much stress it’s truly not worth it. (This is coming someone who stretched a relationship to 3 years in high school when i probably shouldn’t have).
Dump him, focus on yourself and become the person you want to be. And find someone who will fight for their right to be with you.
All the best!
Yeah, trust your instinct. From my experience it isn’t worth sticking these kinds of things out, especially with someone who can’t regulate themselves and needs you to tell them their behaviour is off before they address it. You’re young still, you’ll bounce right back, nows the time to explore what makes you happy, not endure the stress of an iffy relationship.
I think you have to take two things into consideration: (1) Are you more happy or more stressed in the overall relationship? (2) Do you think your boyfriend is willing to solve through these issues together to make things work?
There will always be problems and stressors in relationships, but the most important thing is the trust that both parties in the relationship are working together to solve these problems. If you feel like it’s a one-way street, the relationship will not last long. Hopefully he will open up to you about what has been going on with him. Regardless, these comments are secondary to your instincts and thoughts.
Your parents wouldn’t mind the age gap if he was from a wealthy family.
Your boyfriend is ignoring you because he’s tired of dealing with the bullshit. Quit while you’re behind – end it.