Dating : Caring is COOL
I hate the mentality that whoever cares less it the winner in the relationship. What a shit attitude. I want to be with someone who cares just as much as I do about everything. It feels good to care about things.
It’s not cool to make someone feel like shit because you’re acting like/actually don’t care.
It breaks my heart that there are people who find it to be a negative trait for caring about others/showing empathy and control in select situations. But it’s important to separate these negative opinions from your ego, and to continue doing good. Those who also wish to do good will see your positivity and flock to you!
As much as it is not a popular opinion I am gradually moving from wearing my heart on my sleeve to keeping it super guarded. I used to show how much I cared all the time. Check on how they are doing. All those sweet dating things. Now I do it much less often. Any person I let in or connect with has left or hurt me. Not much sense in wearing your heart on your sleeve if people are just going to hurt it. People need to earn the trust to be let in.
I want to find a relationship that will be long lasting and could lead to a marriage down the road. I feel like this is gradually getting harder and harder in the age of causal dating and hookups.
I don’t even know why or when this became a thing. I feel like it wasn’t always this way. Maybe I’m wrong.
It just feels like now it’s an epidemic.
It’s a dick measuring contest where being aloof is the dick. Fortunately, I’ve realized it’s typically only present in the first stages of dating and if you find someone trying to play games longer than that (or at all really) it’s not even worth it.
Jesus…yes. My mom has said this to me. Sadly it is structurally true, but it sickens me.
Yeah honestly I cared about someone I was dating. And idk they made it seem like it was embarrassing for me to do. Yeah sorry I developed feelings lmao what do you expect me to do.
Obviously that’s over lmao
Amen!
I don’t like it, but it just makes sense. And it makes sense that a lot of people would get tired of being on the shit end of things and would decide to adapt to it rather than just wish it away. In general, not just in relationships, caring a lot about things is seen as kind of lame
Only a idiot would think that and I doubt they last in relationships.
Change your mindset and you won’t be bothered by it so much. Change it to: « Your first priority is always to yourself. After that comes the other. » Otherwise you’ll always be used and feel that way.