Dating : Confused about this guy
-First date went well: conversation was flowing, no awkward silence, he was a good listener and asked a lot of questions, great chemistry, we kissed at the end
-Since then we’ve been texting but couldn’t schedule a second date because he has been travelling for almost a month, although I brought it up two times and he said “he wants to meet but as these trips were planned a long time ago, he can’t” which I understand but he didn’t even try to plan a secone date
-He has been texting me very non personal things, never gets too deep, sent me selfies and a shirtless pic which makes me think he only wants sex but it’s confusing because he literally texts me everyday and puts just enough effort to keep my interest
-When I got tired of things not progressing after I brought it up 2 times, and he reacted kinda negatively, I ignored him for a week, but then he started reacting to my insta stories and even mentioned me ignoring his texts so it sounded like it really bothered him
-Now we’re talking again and he’s asking more questions about my vacation and stuff, but still nothing too personal
What do you think?
I would say that maybe the date didn’t go that fantastically from his end. How much did you find out about him and ask him qs?
Regardless though, you said it yourself. He’s doing the bare minimum to keep you interested. You are an option and not a priority so figure out if you’re okay with that, and if not it is time to go!
Ok, so you’ve brought up a valid **need**, twice, and he hasn’t acknowledged it in a constructive way, resorting to responding negatively. That’s dismissive. And you responded by giving him the cold shoulder, which he didn’t like. To make relationships work, compromise is necessary.
If this was a relationship, I’d have given a more thorough list of ideas as to make it work, but this is a really dysfunctional dynamic, this early on…
Just leave and try a different set of shoes. If this dude was able to like you, someone else will.
I’ve seen people talk about breadcrumbing. It’s basically what it sounds like he’s doing- he’s giving you just enough attention to keep you interested and stringing you along.
He really wants to have sex with u.
Move on