Dating : Dating as a virgin
I’m a almost 24-year-old virgin male. Well, I am not just a virgin, but I have never had a girlfriend, been on a date, or kissed. This is because for the longest time I was too scared to ask girls out and I also wasn’t in the best place financially. I do plan to save myself for marriage though. Anyway, is it likely that I can find a girl (who has been in a previous relationship) in my age range that is open to dating someone like me?
I’m 25M . 1st time i ever asked a girl out/1st date was 3 months ago. I studied a lot of what to do/not to do on asking a girl out as well as on the date. Heart was beating crazy, i was really nervous when asking her out, –> the date was bad (not too bad, just no connection), i messed up a lot easily, the words i used sounded too clingy and desperate (i presented myself as a more formal dating as a job to plan/ to do instead of a more sexual/ fun event) .
The big barrier that was holding me back from asking a girl out in high school, etc… was that i didn’t go outside and explore much of life (which needed MONEY, money that wasn’t being thrown at me by my parents). I finally finished college which gave me a boost in confidence (thinking i had the promise of a future) i was hopeful and energetic and asked a few girls out. Even if those interactions didn’t lead to a 2nd date (or even a 1st) , I enjoyed the experience.
Now that I finally got a good job and money, all that hope and energy into asking out women is gone.
So now i’m basically doing the same thing now as I was doing pre-good job.
The only difference is that now I don’t feel anxiety when in front of pretty women (that I myself think are pretty), I just don’t care.
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But for you. imagine saying those same exact words that you typed,,,, except replace the 24-year old with « 50 year old ». . What are your chances then ? .
BTW relax, try not to sound desperate.
It wouldn’t bother me if a guy I was dating was inexperienced. I actually love teaching. It would be a deal-breaker for me if the guy wanted to wait until marriage because we wouldn’t be able to tell if we were sexually compatible and unless we just happened to be the marriage would not survive. I would have no problem waiting several months for him to be ready though.
Your best bet is to date women who are church going Christians and are also waiting for marriage . Fortunately on our generation churchgoing is more than twice as common with women as with men so you should have your pick. Try a dating site like Christian Mingle or go to social events organised by local churches (not just your own). Good luck
I am 30 and a virgin. My buddy and I joke about me being a Sage. I am a generally like able guy but I don’t get enough chances to be about and talking to other people. I have very few friends where we do things together and he distance between us I very far. My one buddy is close but ever weekend he rockclimbs. Really not my sport. I am trying to get out more to talk to more people often messed up family get together for whatever reason. Now not saying my confidence is through the roof in regards to talking to the opposite sex but it would give me some time to meet other people and come more out of my shell.
You’re good son, girls didn’t start looking at me til I was 28
Dont bring it up
Honestly, being a Virgin is irrelevant. It’s how you interact. Want to wait for a specific amount of time? Great! Communicate that but learn how to not be weird about it.
In other words, you are equating virginity with perceived desirability because of experience level. That is a vicious lie that your sexual experience is your standard of worth. Get rid of that thinking. Your worth is your emotional availability as a partner. That’s what the relationship is built on, not the sex. The sex will be important, but it ain’t everything.
Every girl is down to date a virgin, but as a past virgin that had the same mentality, I advise to just do it already… You’ll realize and you’ll wish to have had done it sooner because sex is not as sacred as you think.