Dating : Did I get cheated on? Feels like I did..
So if you’ve been dating for 3 months, talking every day, seeing each other and sleeping at each other’s places 2-3 times a week. The person you’re dating has told their family about you, you’ve exchanged Christmas gifts, things like “I can’t stop thinking about you”, “I wish you were here with me”(they’re on vacation), “You’ve got me, I’m all yours” are said. It’s pretty clear that neither of you are seeing anybody else. BUT, you have not had the big defining the relationship talk.
Your significant other goes away on vacation and it turns out they slept with somebody.
Cheating or not cheating?
If you’ve only been together 3 month, how are you exchanging Christmas gifts?
No official exclusivity talk means you can’t assume she’s not sleeping with people 24/7 when she’s not with u. She sucks for doing it but no talk means she can do w/e she wants
You need to talk… Get on the same page, and see where your ‘relationship’ is going. Don’t be all whiny. If she came right out and told you she had sex with someone while on vacation and it wasn’t any kind of secret… she didn’t see it as cheating.
She was either setting the tone for how your ‘friendship’ is going to play out, is trying to do something to make you take notice, and have the ‘exclusivity’ talk, or simply isn’t in the same ‘dating’ mindset that you seem to be.
Again, no whining and accusing… Just talk, and see where the two of you stand. If you get all whiny and start making accusations, you may as well end things right now.
Good Luck
No… bro, if you two don’t say you’re exclusive, you’re not exclusive. Communicate!
It’s not cheating if you’re not exclusive.
And if you haven’t had the talk, then you’re not exclusive.
Simple as that.
I would say yes, it’s cheating
What is there to cheat on? If you never talked about what your relationship is, don’t assume you are committed to each other. Maybe she only wants friends with benefits or an open relationship and you’re both assuming something different. Expectations get you hurt, conversations get you on the same page. You cant cheat if you never agreed on the rules.
since you mention the talk, then i’ll assume you expect that talk to happen at some point, meaning that your relationship needs that talk. in that case, since you did not have the talk, and did not define what you two are, then it’s not cheating.
it’s quite easy to just feel like you want to be with someone, including saying stuff like « wish you were here », and « i think of you often » even prior to being in a committed relationship. it’s these feelings early on, that will help you decide, if you want to be in that committed relationship.
so having those feelings, is not the same as being in the committed and exclusive relationship.
You did and I wouldn’t trust this person. They will try to convince you its not cheating. They have warped morals.
The definitions and semantics don’t matter in this situation. You can’t take black and white stance here. You felt you both had a bond, and this other person did something that hurts that bond. Whether they “cheated” or not, you have to ask yourself are you comfortable with this? You have every right to stay, and every right not to stay.
What if this other person then told you that they slept with a different person every single night you two weren’t together over the past 3 months, some would say hey you weren’t exclusive all good, others would say that diminishes their bond, can’t do this anymore.
You can’t expect what you don’t communicate.
Sounds kinda like cheating to me. This person says they wish you were with them on vacation then sleep with someone else on that vacation? This person says “I’m yours,” and other exclusive phrases saved for one person…I’m sorry friend. This person sounds manipulative and is cheating on you.