Dating : Do I stay at his after our first date or not?
So I’m in another city next week for work, and I have agreed to go on a date with an old friend. We have known each other for years, we used to live in the same town and got on really well as friends.
He has asked if I am staying over after our first official date, what do I say? I don’t want to look like I’m offering myself on a plate, if it was a first date with anyone else I would 100% say no, but we are already friends?
Plus we are going for a few drinks (I’m the most awkward person ever so trust me when I say I need a drink), so it would be handy to not have to catch the last train home on my own, especially because I would need to catch 2 trains. I could drive, but then obviously I can’t drink if I do.
Am I totally over thinking the whole thing?
What are your intentions? I find it that sometimes people don’t know what they want for the future with that someone. At first you may want a relationship, but other times as you keep talking you notice that isn’t your intentions and you want a good friend you can hang out with that isn’t a female. But that’s just food for thought.
I think it wouldn’t be bad to do so, but maybe lay out your intentions after some drinks and are walking back or even at his place. Beating around the bush makes things awkward when he tries to touch and flirt. If he shows he’s content with just hanging out and maybe some cuddle action, AND can restrain from not pushing you to have sex, you could have someone genuine. But don’t make it dwell on your mind.
So you’re over thinking for sure, but it’s probably due to a lack of experience? ( in these situations. Having a good friend, having a good time, but then they ask you if you want to stay at their place). Hope that doesn’t sound rude.