Dating : Do women care if I have basically no social media presence?
I just don’t have time to maintain that kinda stuff. Things like instagram also put me in a bad mood so I wouldn’t really use it much if I did have the time. I probably post once or twice a year and don’t have a ton of followers. If I were trying to date someone, would they be alarmed?
i don’t use social media cuz i have no friends. sooooo basically, i don’t care if a guy uses social media or not.
There’s a joke amongst women that a guy with no social media is actually a huge bonus. It’s tongue in cheek, but basically guys without social media are less likely to start hitting on girls via Instagram etc. For me I secretly like it, despite the fact it is a somewhat insecure thing
I’m a woman, and I really don’t care if you use social media or not. If anything, I’d probably like you more because it most likely means you’re going to want to actually spend time talking to me without checking your likes or DMs.
I don’t care if someone uses it or not, but I low key kinda like when some information about them is on the internet because I can look them up hahaha
They shouldn’t be. Most social media apps are very toxic and negative to be on. Instagram, I see it as all fake. People only post they great moments in life they want you to see, but mostly it’s over the top and fake. I deleted it last november and I’ve never felt happier. Got rid of Facebook too.
I consider it as a good sign that a guy has zero interest in social media.
(F/29) I think it’s refreshing rather than alarming. That suggests to me that you’re not caught up in putting on a show for social media and are doing more productive things with your time.
Probably only women who care about your « social status » might have a problem with it.
19F here. I really don’t care. Myself, I don’t use social media as much anymore. Aside from just keeping up with my friends lifes, I don’t use it anymore, just mostly for entertainment. In fact, I would rather date someone who wasn’t so horned in on having a large social media presence. I dated somone like that and it was always “phones out” to record us, take a photo from snap and honestly it just got annoying. Like he was trying to prove to everyone else we were dating
I’d say it depends here. If I meet a guy through a friend, I feel that the guy has been validated through my friend and most likely is a fun & good person to hang out with. In online dating, when I connect with a guy with no mutual friends, I actually like double checking the person through their social media just to get an idea of how they present themselves outside of their dating profile. If you know what to look out for, you can spot red flags pretty easily, so I do actually treat it as a matter of safety.
This does not mean excessive social media stalking or that I’d never go out on a date with someone with zero social media presence. If someone seems genuine and gives me a valid reason why they are not online, I do accept that. But as a woman going out on a date with someone who hasn’t been validated through a mutual contact, I always like to do some research.
I really hope they don’t care about social media, I’m 32 and the only sm I have is Facebook and I only use it now to keep in touch with family.
I like when a man isn’t active on social media. I like my men out here living in the real world, that attracts me.
I think its more attractive, but im not a woman so i can only guess what they like
I don’t think it’s weird, most of my accounts I rarely use now. If you’re much younger than me though maybe, I could see myself thinking it was strange in my early 20s.
Girls like guys that are mysterious. No social media presence = more mystery. So there is a positive aspect to it.
Not the ones who matter
19F here. Tbh, I think it’s mainly up to who you talk to. I only have a Facebook and an Instagram that I only post 1-2 time a year, both only serve as a way for me to keep in contact with friends and family. My boyfriend has even less than I do, only keeping up with 1 or 2 messaging apps for friends and family as well. This dynamic works really well for us as we both are private people and much preferred to do other things than to maintain social media accounts.
Unless you have no internet presence / only blank profiles most girls won’t care at all. If there is zero trace of you existing, things start looking a bit weird as it makes it more difficult to confirm that you actually are who you say you are.
when i was living out of the country no, when I came back YES!
You would think no but woman man can’t ever tell
I think it’s fine, but if you already have social media downloaded and she wants to be posted, I don’t think it would be too much trouble for you to post a picture of her every once in awhile. I don’t think guys realize how happy that makes some girls, to be shown off and it makes them feel really pretty that their boyfriend wants to post them.
They will care more that you have no money
I am 27(f) and I don’t have social media. I find it more attractive when men don’t have social media.
Not all, a lot do.
That one’s that don’t care would still much prefer dating someone with a bigger presence
In my opinion no social media is good and well for the person who needs the affirmation of others to attain self-approval or sense of self-worth now that’s not everybody that is a lot of people though I think there are those people out there who only have ways such as Facebook to speak their families or the ones they know from their old hometowns or friends you know but once you start putting too much value into getting likes for whatever reason whether if it’s because you’re nosy and checking up on other people and not worried about your own issues it could be a problem you’re inviting negativity into your life and making a judgment or keep in other people’s lives because we’re curious people. Your significant other definitely shouldn’t care if you do or do not have any kind of presence on social media social media is does that news from your social circle added with a whole bunch of advertisements and hidden symbols to make you think you need things you really don’t even need or desire to have, the only reason you desire anything is because you feel you need something and what do you really need though what’s the basics are you only getting things to keep up with the Joneses or you get in the new truck because your neighbor got the new truck too so who’s the leader, in my opinion of woman should be happy that her man doesn’t have any social media presence or time for that because that means you’re either working or spending time with her which is good if that’s what she likes as well and you’re not going to be chasing or lusting after other women and putting doubt into her mind you also have to think on the other side of the coin as well though if you don’t keep up with your Instagram is she going to assume or think that you don’t want her to keep up with hers or could social media come in between y’all because you’re curious as to who she’s talking to so it’s all into your own perception building on trust loyalty unity respect just communicate and be honest be up front tell her your fears or your concerns if it’s important to you anyway