Dating : Do you ever want those short lived romances to REGRET they passed on u?
I had intense chemistry with a guy, were both in our 30s, we met organically,
For one month it was intense- sex, sleepovers, spending time walking his pup and going around the city
we were chill, both of us aren’t clingy so we weren’t constantly texting each other, we did text once a day after work if we didn’t see each other. We both didn’t come on too strong, but we had or so I thought intense chemistry.
one day he was acting super cold and just looked empty. that weekend he sat me down and broke it off, I took it gracefully, although I was so hurt. he even said « I’m surprised ur not more upset. » (like maybe he thought me crying I guess would make his ego feel better?)
that night we spent 5 hours together walking around museums and had hot coco and he gave me a hug and said I hope this isn’t the last time I see u, and I said « u have my book 🙂
anyways, I called him three days later and told him I missed him, he never reciprocated. and he asked to meet up for coffee to return my book…
it was indeed that last time he saw me….I never contact him since, its been since DEC. and nether has he.
but so badly I want him to regret it…….ughhhhh…
Someday, someone will walk into your life and make you realize why it never worked out with anyone else.
I get the Same way 32/M and Honestly over my years I have spent time with people and bonded and they would just leave me. Even now I don’t wish bad, and it isn’t like their lives are amazing. I just kinda wish they stayed and all, I am a Lovey type of guy, so lol I just wanna love and be loved. Go on vacations and just laugh.
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just sucks when I do really like someone, and they don’t feel the same, but they are in another process in their life. I Wish it would work sometimes.
If he wasn’t dying to be with you in the end, he was faking everything. He won’t regret it or else he’d be with you. Men today are VERY good at faking things.
In the past, players were mostly super hot, famous, or very wealthy. Today, players are often very average guys, often times broke as well.
Another thing that has changed is players used to not care about their actions and words matching, and in todays world, for a high value woman, they know they HAVE to have their actions and words match or she’d run away. Again, hookups are easy to get for men today. They want the girl who DOESN’T want a hookup because its a larger trophy for them. They get off on using and playing women.
Who doesn’t? I think the root of it is you have feelings for them or did and they acting like you never matter in the first place? I think we all just want people to care about us totally the ones who did us wrong.
Absolutely not.
If something ends, I don’t like to spend time dwelling on the ifs and buts. You can’t control how you feel, but what purpose does this serve, besides causing yourself some level of anguish?
Not worth it, and not healthy.
Personally, I hope all of the men I’ve been with and almost been with are doing well, thriving, and in healthy relationships that make them happy.
Move on.
You seem like a sweet girl. You wanted more. He meant something for you. He used you for sex. But that’s how we learn through the road. You are tough though. Good job. Glad u didn’t satisfy his ego
Wanting someone else to feel bad because they don’t have feelings for you is evil. Why would you ever want someone you cared about to feel bad?
That sucks, OP.
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NEVER date only one man in the « dating » phase. That way when they ghost, or act shitty, or fall through, for whatever reason, you have other men waiting for you to reply to them.
Sounds petty.
It was a fun 1-month fling, let it go.