Dating : Do you have race based sexual preferences?
I saw a video on TikTok where they surveyed women on whether they would date a particular race and some women were pretty blatantly racist while describing how they would never date someone from a particular race. The comments were quite mixed with some people agreeing that they’re right to not want to date a certain group e.g. no one wants to date Asians, while others didn’t condone their behavior. I wonder what this subreddit thinks.
To make things simpler would you consider someone of a different race if you were:
1. Looking for a hookup
2. Looking for a relationship
3. Trying to find a longer term partner to get married
People of all genders are welcome to comment.
I would consider someone of any ethnicity. It’s totally ok to have preferences, but I never understood people that blatantly say “I will never date people of X race”. I mean, is that not textbook racism??
Unless you’ve met every person of that ethnicity, why would you close yourself out to the possibilities?? There are beautiful, kind people of all races, it’s ridiculous to me that someone could just rule out an entire ethnicity of people so blatantly and act like that it has nothing to do with broad generalizations at best, and racism at worst.
Those women seem fucked in their heads lol.
White, Central-European guy here. There are women of all ethnicities and complexions I’ve found attractive. But I do have a preference for features I find most commonly in Hispanic and Mediterranean women. I also enjoy their cultures, which would be something fun to bond over if they are closely connected to their heritage.
I’m from south east asia and it’s very common for women here to think that a certain race is superior and there’s certain race they’d never date. Sometimes that makes me uncomfortable cuz I literally could not care less, I have a crush on someone from the middle east and my friends told me I have weird type? Well I just have no type okay I’ve had a crush/dated people of all races. While I sometimes feel like people from my country who live here (Canada) are quite weird, I dated someone from my country in Canada before and I just think I shouldn’t assume that this whole ethnic group / race is weird just cuz of where they’re from or the way they look
Only ones I’ve actively avoided have ironically been mostly British, probably due to being moderately atypical from other British people. The culture is dry and boring with little focus on cultivating interests beyond work and then spending that money on cack.
There’s something lacking here, unless you poke your nose around alternative sorts or people had interests instilled in them.
Tldr; race does not inherently determine attractiveness.
Attractive is attractive, regardless of race. That said, I tend to be most attracted to East Asian men. That goes for hookups, relationships, everything.
White, European woman here. I’ve always found myself attracted to Hispanic, Mediterranean and Native American men. It must be a combination of dark hair and eyes, olive skin and the tendency to wear their hair long.
White male here. I tend to prefer black girls, and have only had sexual experiences with them, but I would date any race if I thought she was attractive and we got along. My preference for black women mainly stems from liking very thick and curvy women with full lips(I also like dark skin and big hair), so if a girl of a different ethnicity had those traits and was interested in me, I would absolutely consider pursuing a relationship with her.
I think that considering race as a factor in dating someone encourages fetishization of it.
I’m a white woman and while I can be into anyone who is attractive and has a cool personality, I’m super into Asian guys. The whole “no one wants Asian men” is so not true.
There are some cultures that I would choose not to date because I see them as incompatible with me. But just based purely on the physical side I’d date anyone.
I’m happy to date people from any race, as long as I find that individual person attractive.
That said, I’m not sure that a person is racist just because they don’t find specific races attractive. It’s not like people have much/any control over what they find attractive. It’s not a choice.
I don’t think it’s right to shame or criticize people for their preferences in dating. People should be allowed to date whoever they like.
It’s all about facial features for me and the type of face i generally am attracted to is usually only found amongst white men. I’m also not single so I don’t care for hookups anymore and wouldn’t think my preferences on that really matter.
Not wanting to date a certain race is NOT racist. And it’s also not your business to even be judging in the first place. Mind your business
It’s a pretty racist thing to ask
it do not matter
Race doesn’t matter to me when it comes to woman. If you cute you cute.
I tend to gravitate toward white or biracial people which I attribute to living in a predominantly white area. Based on past attraction alone, I would say I do have a slight preference toward biracial people. I don’t exclude any race when looking for someone to hook up with, date or maintain a long term relationship with. As long as our lifestyles and personalities line up, nothing else matters personally.
Listen, I am a brown guy who’s « sexual preference » is for white-blondes. Whether it be dyed or natural blonde …if they can pull off blonde hair and make it look natural…I was all there’s.
**[EDIT]** *my wife of 4 years is a natural blonde and « brown guys » are HER sexual preference. so for sexual preference to form a real relationship, you also have to be HER sexual preference.. if your not her sexual preference as much as she is your sexual preference….sorry guys, its just not going to be a long-term relationship….no money or charm is going to make that relationship work out.*
So my sexual preference left out :
1. White Brunettes (only the ones that can not pull off a natural blonde hair look)
2. White Redheads (only the ones that can not pull off a natural blonde hair look)
3. Blacks
4. Indians
5. Asians
6. Latinas
7. Arabs
That left out 7 types of women. Now ask yourself, can I marry all 8 ( the 8th one is including white-blondes) ? ..no I can not. I can only marry 1 girl. And that 1 girl would be my « sexual preference ». So to anyone that had a problem with that (especially my family) …I ask them, how can I marry all 8 types of women? ….and if they didnt have a solution, I did NOT listen to what they had to say. People dont like to hear that you have a « preference » and that you should take whatever comes your way and settle…like they did ( it only ends in divorce FYI )
Race is not a barrier for me at all in any category. If I can be comfortable and be myself around someone, that’s infinitely more important to me than race. In fact, I’d call race a non issue for me.
I’m black and I’ve dated my race the least. I like who likes me as an individual first. I’ve dated wom who do not typically date men of my hue. But just liked me and that works better. Being fetishized means very little room for creative style. Who wants to be told what to can be?
Yes
1. Did not matter, and even if it did it was likely you weren’t going to see them again anyways. I cared more if they had stds or not.
2. I’ve dated/been in relationships with pretty much all races. I’ve only had hesitation when it came to dating someone black, because my dad thinks most of them are uneducated, rude, or thugs. I didn’t want to subject any boyfriends to that, and I just found it easier to not date someone black to avoid any ostracism I’d get. When I was attending college out of state and away from family, I did have a relationship with someone black, but the reasons for it ending had nothing to do with his race: he lied about his age (said 24 was actually 28) and was verbally abusive.
3. I feel like my answer for this is the same as the “relationship “ one. I don’t think my married life would be affected by what race my husband is. If anything, dating many races can demonstrate that anyone can be unfaithful, abusive, or manipulative. However, unless if I really do like someone black, I wouldn’t want to date them because I wouldn’t want to subject them to my parents’ /relatives racism.
I don’t have a particular type(or race) of woman i find attractive as it’s mostly their personality and mentality that determine if I’m going to give them my time.
I don’t have a particular type(or race) of woman i find attractive as it’s mostly their personality and mentality that determine if I’m going to give them my time.
I can find anyone sexy. My preference isn’t based on skin tone, but more body structure, cleanliness, the way they talk to me and treat me. I’ve never dated a black man, and I was called racist for that, but I have dated black women. It’s just the way the cards have fallen. Nothing against anyone.
White male here, I definitely prefer Latinas. I would however date/sleep with any ethnicity. I like my women like I like my milkshakes…thick
No