Dating : Do you think a woman can truly love a man?
I’ve been doing more and more readings into dating and relationships so one day I can finally get a relationship to work. The one thing that stands out to me is that a women’s affection and love is completely dependent on how the man behaves. If this is the case, can a man and a woman truly love each other? Or is it just a case of man and woman wanting to be with each other so they arent alone?
Isn’t your affection based on how someone behaves too? If not, how do you decide who you love?
What is this question? Ofc whether you love someone or not depends on how they behave. I mean on what else should It depend? So I guess whatever your definition for true love is but yes, obviously, people can truly love eachother.
I believe all love is conditional to a point. We’re human, after all, and we all deserve to be treated fairly. People change over time, and handle situations differently. You can absolutely truly love a person in a specific moment, void of conditions. But life is FULL of conditions, so it’s impossible to separate love from what we go through.
I truly love my husband. We’ve been through a lot of life events that have changed us, and luckily, we’ve changed with each other so the love remains. But if he became abusive? Or started loving another woman and left me and our kids for her? If he quit his job for no reason other than to sit at home, smoke pot, and drink? Those are things that would change definitely test and probably change my feelings for him.
I don’t stay with my husband because I’m afraid of being alone. Hell, a lot of times I daydream about being alone – but being married with kids does that to you! It’s a balance between love, commitment, and forgiveness. It’s learning to fall in love, over and over again.
the only unconditional affection that exists is between a parent and their child (and if you didn’t get that, i’m sorry).
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i’ve yet to hear of a relationship that is 100% unconditional.
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just look at all the cases of men leaving their wives when said lady gets cancer. or the cases on r/JustNoSO
I think you read correctly.
It’s my 16th years in the relationship and I believe a woman’s love depends on your behavior and your passion for life. She wants to see the eager in you to grow in life. If you don’t have that thing, her love will die.
But you can’t complain about that. She is different. You can’t expect her to act like a man. She is created in a different way. Her nature is different. If you show her and also do your best to grow in life and respect and love her, even if you fail in life and don’t grow well, she will stay with you. Because for her the eager in you is all the matters.
She doesn’t want to live with a dead person who is just sitting and wasting his life.
Don’t do too much « research », you’ll overthink things, get into your head too much, and ultimately sabotage your dating life.
There is a lot of philosophy I could go into that essentially discusses the differences between men and women, but first: Let’s debunk what you said….
Yes. Men and women are both capable of love… Your implication that women shouldn’t expect to be treated well by their men is strange. That’s like saying men aren’t capable of love because of the strong visual component to choosing a mate who is sexually attractive.
You can not like the way a man is treating you and leave him but still love him…I still love my ex husband but can’t stand his behavior. Hence the X factor.
Yes. As of today, I believe love is a choice.
I honestly don’t know. I gave my ex wife everything I could. My full attention, any money I made for her to buy whatever she needed and wanted, essentially everything I could muster and in the end she maxed out all my cards and left in the night. Changes in my behavior were caused by changes in hers. She decided she didn’t want to have sex anymore a few years into the marriage, and then got pissed when I stop initiating. She said it made her feel unattractive. Well, why would I try when you’ve said no for a year? She stopped talking to me unless it was to complain about me doing nothing around the house. I worked over 50 hours a week and did every chore in the house. She didn’t work and didn’t even cook most of the time. By the time she left I barely even tried to get her back. I said we could go to marriage counseling and she said it had to be a Christian counselor. I said no and she said she wasn’t doing it then. No negotiation. No nothing. It was her way or the highway after seven years of marriage.
I’m trying to convince myself that not all women will rip my heart out and throw it away, but even relationships after have turned out the same. I try and try and they give up and move on, leaving me to suffer alone while they hang out with their new boyfriend. It would be nice if a single woman would show me I’m capable of being loved by them. My mother didn’t love me. My wife didn’t love me. No woman has ever loved me. I’ve loved plenty of them enough to die for them, and they don’t love me enough to give me a damn thing.
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idk it’s a mystery
Please elaborate
No, it can never happen. TRULY
Define love…it’s probably not what this question presumes
I’ve wondered that myself. It seems like a woman’s attraction for a guy is extremely sketchy. Plus women are a bit more harsh when it comes to judging attractiveness. On top of that, think of how easy it is for a woman to meet a new guy if she’s no longer attracted to the one that she’s with. All of those factors make it very difficult to commit to someone like that.