Dating : Does it make sense to date someone if you don’t know how long it will last.
Background: 24F. I’ve only ever had one serious relationship that lasted three years long. I honestly thought I was going to marry this man and have his babies. Of course that was a bust.
I’ve been in a one year friends with benefits relationship. It was stress free and exciting and satisfying. We caught feelings and both admitted we really liked each other but haven’t decided what our next move would be. At one point we both thought we weren’t going to last very long so we ended our friends with benefits as to not waste each other’s time. But decided to get back together months later as we really did like and miss each other.
Here’s the thing. He’s not the greatest with expressing his feelings. So I don’t know what he’s thinking. And although I really like him I’m not sure where this is going to go. My friends say if I don’t see a future with him then why bother. And it’s not that I don’t see him in my future it’s that I don’t want to set myself up for a heart break. Now when I see my future I see me and what I can fulfill, not who’s by my side.
if you’re already thinking that then just don’t date them, you should never think how long will it last… wtf
Yeah, this whole thing was a waste of time from the beginning. The reason you’re worried about being heartbroken by this guy is because your gut is trying to warn you that he’s really not interested in having a relationship with you even after a year of FWB.
How can you know upfront how long it will last?
The point of friends with benefits is to get your sexual needs taken care of without additional relationship things to deal with. if you have moved beyond that or want to be beyond that and you’re not getting it , then go ahead and it because now you’re just wasting time