Dating : Don’t read this, I just want to feel better about myself and I heard you should write a letter or smth.
Every time I start liking a girl shit goes wrong. Like we chat daily, everything seems alright, but after the first date she just starts to lose interest eventhough the date went off great, I made her laugh it wasn’t that awkward. She stops replying to texts, and eventually you see a pic of her with some other guy.I honestly don’t get it. I’m not a « nice guy » or a douche.Things like that make me question myself, man, it drops your confidence. I actually feel better after writing this.
It sounds counterintuitive, but have you tried not texting her after a date unless she texts you? A lot of women will run as fast as they can at the first sign of clingyness, even if it’s not that bad.
I didn’t read what you said so I’ll just say this: HAMPSTER DUMPSTER
You attract what you believe in. So if you expect sth will go downhill it most likely will. Just be yourself, be happy, do your thing and if she fits in with your life and your understanding of happiness – great! If not, move on.
We’re obviously gonna read it.
When you say it’s not that awkward, how awkward are we talking?
There’s a great sub called « unsentletters » you should go visit!
Why do you think they call it, « game »? Why do you think that thousands of woman post, « I’m not into games » in their dating profiles? « No players ». « No games ». « Tired of the games ». There’s an infinite number of ways to say the same thing here.
It’s a game. It’s a woman getting scared and losing interest because you show more emotion than she does. She’s allowed, you’re not. She can be soft, she can fail, she can make mistakes, and men will still want her. But mess up once and if she’s of any value, you’ll never get her back to the place she may have originally been.
I’ve seen this loads of times–situations where men think everything is going amazingly. I’ve known woman who have told men that these men are amazing. That they’ve never felt such a spark. That they’ve never been made to feel the way in their entire lives that this man makes them feel… Then weeks or a few months later, it’s all gone. They forgot about everything they previously felt and they’re in bed with another guy as if the last guy doesn’t even exist.
I’ve never seen this with men. I’ve never had a woman tell me that there was this guy and everything was amazing, then suddenly he detached himself from her like that. I’ve known men who have lied to woman to get them into bed by telling them they wanted a relationship when that wasn’t true. I’ve known of men who wanted to get over an ex but then while in a new relationship, had their ex come back into their lives and they went back to them, but those kinds of behaviors are all quantifiable–more importantly, they’re **explainable**.
I’ve had conversations with woman who have done these sorts of things and I have never obtained a rational reason why they did it. The reasoning are always abstract: I wasn’t feeling it. I fell out of love. I just didn’t like him that much anymore.