Dating : Downplaying the issues short men have
Whenever short guys like myself say we have difficulty finding someone and we say we get told we’re too short, there’s always an asshole that basically blames our personality or says we have « little man syndrome » when that isn’t the case at all. Here is one example by a user.
« I don’t think women avoid you because you’re short. i think women avoid you because you suffer from little man syndrome and have an inferiority complex that you manifest as rage lmao. not a good look. »
As if someone that’s like this is in our lives 24/7 and knows exactly who we are since birth as well as being in these situations at all times
Every characteristic that is seen as positive in a tall man is seen as ‘compensating’ in a short man. Anything can be rejected as ‘little man’s syndrome’ at the end of the day.
You can’t change what nature has given to you. Just strike the earth and embrace the dorf lifestyle, grow a beard, drink and gain wealth!
It might be that they’re trying to rationalize their own prejudice. Otherwise they would have to questionned their own morality, and that’s uncomfortable. Or it’s a manifestation of misandy; people still expect men to just suck it up.
As an average man, you’ll have difficulties in online dating. All those short and ugly men with girlfriends you see outside? They met their partner using social circles and mutual friends. Most perpetually single and sexless men simply lack the social life needed to get a woman.
Example: Imagine that you’re a short man making moves on woman x. This woman x WILL date you if you met at someone’s wedding. Because that she doesn’t mind dating a short guy. But that exact same woman x will NOT swipe right on you in an app. Because that you where not tall.
I can understand it from women’s perspective. Do you really want your son to be short?
Tbh i never experienced that problem of the « short guy ». Maybe it’s a new thing in your country, but being 175cm all my dates with shorter girls weren’t even talking about the height.
And about tall girls, well i just simply don’t date or swipe girls that are taller. If they are like few centimeters taller wearing heels it ain’t a biggie but if 5/10 centimeters taller with flat shoes, i’m just not even trying
See my post here:
https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/nykq40/whether_you_get_sex_as_a_man_has_nothing_to_do/
People are full of shit and will blame and attack any man who isn’t getting laid because to do otherwise would be to acknowledge women are superficial and their sexual selections are meaningless.
Everyone wants to pretend women only date amazing men even though we know they date shitty men constantly. It’s just a coincidence those men are tall, white/black, and handsome.
People are awful and lie to men constantly.
No it’s definitely your height. It can be both too, I have met some angry insecure short dudes.
It’s not really about how you look but more of how you feel about yourself.
And if you feel like shit people gon treat you like shit.
I have two friends that are under 5’8”, yet they are are both married and here I am at 5’11” single.. hm….
5’5 and I run into the same issue. I have better luck if I am involved in something, work, an activity, or whatever. I find exposure to my personality does help to sway their views and ignore my shorter stature. Online dating is very very tough.
The real reality is,no one really cares who gets struck down while trying to fuck or date.
No one is here to meet anyone’s needs,but their own.
If they are trying to date,with nothing but the other person on their mind,they are fucked from the start.
It’s nice to get along with someone you date and especially if you are in a relationship,but it’s not a given.Nothing is ever guaranteed to turn into a child rearing opportunity for you or anyone else.
If someone is giving you an excuse of saying they don’t want short kids,maybe they are just telling you there is no chance in hell they would be with you.It’s an easy,ready made excuse that gets the point across,and ends all discussion.
It probably hurt you by someone saying that to you,but a lot of the time you have to almost beat someone over the head to get someone to back off and realize it isn’t going to happen.
You will find someone you are into,and hopefully they will share in some of the things you have pictured for your future self.If someone brought up children as soon as I met them,or soon after,I would probably tell them I was incapable of producing children,not because I don’t think they should have kids,but because we aren’t in the same page.Could I just as easily come up with some shitty thing to say,that involved their height,weight,race,financial footing or any other thing I could use against them to tell them why I would not want children with them?Sure I could,but I’m not a shitfuck,so I will place it upon myself,and let them know,no more discussion about children.If that turns them off,so be it.
I’m not going to baby them and make sure they are ok with my decision not to knock them up.
In all honesty,I would just say I don’t want children with you,the end.
But to get my point across,I used a discussion that could happen,where I lie to get out of telling them uncomfortable truths.
What happened to you was the opposite,they told you about how your children would be short,essentially blaming you for why they can’t just say that they dont like you enough to have children with.
Maybe she was a mean person,or she could just be to shallow to come up with anything but surface insults.
In the end does it matter?She said no,so that’s it.
I hope that you are as forthright as you say you are.It would suck if you are just as surface related as the people you are talking about that are *treating you bad*.
Only you know that.
Good luck with things.
Wait, what is wrong with being a short guy? I always thought it made me cute and adorable.
Weird I would be so confused and just say but i think my height of 5,5 is perfect because I actually really like my height because if i can reach anything if i feel like it and if i dont feel like being tall i can crouch easily.
The thing is that most of the times everything is blamed on beeing short and that life would be just awsome if that person would be taller. I think it is fine not to like something about ones self but that does not mean it is the reason for all your suffering.