Dating : Ex is giving me mixed signals – What should I do?
This is about a guy I dated for a few months 3 years ago. Things didn’t work out because I was quite insecure about myself at the time, honestly I thought he was too hot to want to date me, and he was stressed with work and didn’t have as much time to see me as I wanted. There’s a 3 year age gap and I’m now 24 while he’s 27.
He has made an effort to keep in touch with me since despite us both dating other people in the meantime (we have texted somewhat regularly but it was never me initiating it). A few months ago while I was still in a relationship he asked me to meet up and we did, I figured it wouldn’t hurt since we have mutual friends that he was alienated from as a result of the breakup. Things weren’t going well in my relationship and to be honest I kind of did it to get back at my boyfriend for meeting up with people from his past without asking me how I felt about it. I had a really good time but didn’t do anything out of line or to suggest I was still interested in him.
Since meeting up that time he has been asking to hang out with mutual friends quite regularly and asking whether I have plans to go to any gigs etc. I thought he was still taken but then he made it clear that he was single. It’s now been 2 months since I split up with my most recent boyfriend and I’m just wondering how to take things further with this guy. He acts like he’s interested in me, talking regularly, playing games together and sending me pics of his cats but physically won’t make a move. I invited him to a friends’ barbecue and said since it’s a long way for him to go home he could crash at my place. Unfortunately he couldn’t make it due to visiting family but I thought it would be a good way to make it clear I’m interested and available. We met up for some drinks on Friday night, I met him a couple of hours before other people arrived and we had a good time, he was asking a lot about my plans for the future and we had a good catch up. Sadly he left to go home early because he was tired apparently.
What do I do from this point onwards? The uncertainty is becoming kind of frustrating for me. I like him a lot and if this is just him trying to be friends, how can I differentiate between the two and make it clear that I’m not interested in just being friends?
If were that guy i would really want a straigt verivication because guy couldn’t make the diffrence between a girl behaving warm with you and someone intrested in you maybe he is thinking that you are just overwelming and kind (wehen you invited him ) so be straight with that maybe he is intrested in you and thinking that you are considering him as a friend
just ask him what he feels about you ..and if you have feelings just say it.
if he says no
or appears to be flaky. just understand n move away
Sending signals/playing games doesn’t always work-some people just want you to be straight up. Unless you really want to be friends with this guy if nothing works out romantically, just tell him you’re into him. He’ll either say he is too or that he’s not (which will likely make it awkward afterwards if he’s not), but at least you’ll have an answer and an idea of how to move forward if it works out.