Dating : First match on Tinder after months has me feeling hopeless
Just to preface, I’ve (22M) used Tinder on and off for about 2-3 years with no success. I’ve had matches and such but I have always eventually gotten ghosted. I’ve deleted and remade my account several times and after a particularly long absence I decided to get back on.
The first girl I matched had a bio that says, “I only drink beer.” I decided to try to play off of her ‘charming’ bio and say that the only beer I like is Bud Lite. She then replied saying, “Did I ask?” I was pretty taken aback since I had never matched with someone this mean. I told her that she seemed like a very nice person and unmatched. Now, I have this looming bad feeling as I use this app. Any advice?
Get off Tinder.
Colossal waste of time.
If you do want to try dating apps again, wait until after summer during the fall sometime when people are indoors bored and are more likely to meet someone. Right now Summer is here and COViD is pretty much over so everyone is just anxious to be outside doing stuff already.
Takes some time to try and meet people in person in the meantime. Go to the gym, yoga classes, co-Ed sports etc. I actually joined a Facebook group for hiking and already went out on a date with one woman and met a cool guy friend as well.
>Any advice?
Delete the app.
Get off the apps and social media. This shit is toxic as fuck. Meet people in real life like an actual person, you’ll have much better interactions and about 100x the chances of getting a date/laid/girlfriend whatever you want.
I’ve had hundreds of matches on tinder and had only one hookup in that time. Meanwhile if I go to any bar and just talk to people I’ll have a 50-50 shot probably. Go outside. The chances of finding your dream girl from the comfort of your couch is near zero, they aren’t even on tinder. The apps are full of low self esteem girls looking for validation or a free lunch. For example current person I just started seeing, work in the same place, coworker asked if I was single, I said yes, she gives me the other girls number. She doesn’t have tinder, doesn’t have Instagram or Facebook. Get off the apps.
I’m in the same boat, and I’ve tried almost all the dating apps. I get a match here and there but I couldn’t get date if I had a gun to my head, no matter what I do. Apparently all the girls who swipe right just want a temporary pen pal, the minute I ask them out they vaporize. I asked one girl if she wanted to grab a coffee after a day of texting and she told me to fuck off. There really is no winning
Might try Bumble. I’m thinking of giving it a try.
That being said, you don’t suddenly start hitting bullseyes if you switch out the dart board. Keep going for and you’ll either find something that sticks or doesn’t and hone your craft either way.
tinder is trash, try hinge