Dating : Guys in 20s vs 30s does your standard in women change?
What you were looking for as a guy in 20s
And
What you are looking for now as a guy is 30s.
How do they differ?
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Tinder : How in the name of God am I supposed to respond to this?
No, my heart’s just grown more cold and hopeless
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Much the same but I’m less willing to be recreationally put down
Not in my 30s yet but my standards have changed with each breakup because I don’t look for a girl that has certain flaws that my ex would have
In my 20s i enjoyed drama to some extent and thought it kept things lively. Like thinking if there’s no drama, the relationship must be boring. I liked women who marched to their own drum and didnt care what society thought – weird independent film lovers, brooding personalities, confrontational to some extent.
In my 30s i’m old and jaded and just tired of dealing with people’s BS. I dont have the energy or the desire to constantly put out fires or be somebody’s therapist so i’m more attracted to stable women who just want the typical life of family, kids, vacation, money in the bank. Also dating is way easier in your 30s. At least as a guy.
Men reach their peak sexual market value around 30 if they work hard for it while women are born with it and reach it around 20. In other words, in my early 20s I looked for a stable relationship because I couldn’t attract and keep women well and thus suffered from long dry spells, whereas now that I’m near 30 I get sexual attention from a lot of women who are younger and hotter than me (we’re both at or near our peak), so I keep things casual.
Yes, but I wouldn’t say changed more like it was molded. I kept a lot of my orginal standards but after each relationship ended I figured out what qualities I was more interested and worked better with.
I’m in my late twenties now and my standards are much higher. In my early twenties, I was looking for a girl to build a life with. That didn’t happen and I built a life that I’m pretty happy with anyway. It would take a pretty special women for me to shake that up. I’m much more comfortable being single and raging testosterone no longer compels me to do stupid crap to impress girls. Honestly it’s a great place to be.
Standards usually don’t change for the most part but rather than dating unstable idiots like I was as a teen, I’m trying to find stable minded women who like the same things I do.
I’m 29 and, yes, my standards rose dramatically since my early teens. It’s a combination of 2 factors:
1. Experience. I’ve dated a number of girls and have become more aware of what a relationship entails, and know what I want out of a relationship.
2. Self-improvement. I’ve *drastically* improved over the years. More socially skilled, more confident, in better shape, better dressed, a lot more life experience, I have an education, a career, make my own money, and life by myself.
I used to beg for basically anything.
Now I demand quality, compatibility, and reciprocity – I have no problems staying single if those demands aren’t met, I don’t need that headache.
Yes. People change so much from 18-25 and more from 25-30. Attraction will always be pretty uniform but you gain more depth and perspective. We’re all complex, it just takes guys longer to appreciate that
I’d say yes mine have changed dramatically. In my twenties all I cared about was sleeping with good looking women who dressed nice with expensive taste. In my thirtees I am much more attracted to good looking ladies who have their stuff together. Nothing sexier to me than a lady who is confidant and does the best she can with the best she has but doesn’t need the Louie V bag, name brand ridiculously expensive gear….
We gain more respect for ourselves and realize how valuable we are. Not all women, just speaking from my own experience.
After being in two serious relationships I decided not to give my heart away too quickly even if I’m very much attracted to whomever I’m dating. I’ve been single for about 5 months. The first 3 months were awful, but after a while I’ve come to love my single life. I don’t miss my ex as much and am enjoying finding myself again, living the way I want to live without having to answer to anyone, going out and coming back home without the fear of being accused of cheating or with the intention to talk to men has been great! The man I’ve been dating ( 5 dates in) said that he’s never met anyone like me, he’s never felt what he feels for me with anyone before. He wants me to be his GF, but I explained to him why I can’t and what I’ve been through in the last two relationships .
Anyways, jumped into a different subject, but a woman will mature and will have no patient with assholes anymore.
After I worked on myself (got an education, physically improved myself and bought clothing that makes me look good) my standards actually went up.
20’s was for experience and fun
30’s (current) finding a life partner
Standards are the same, you just become experienced and able to see all the redflags and warning signs so its much easier to filter out potential partners.
Was into any woman before. Now in late 20s I’m into asian women, need good communication, looking for not just drink/party chicks, gone with going slow aslong as stuff is happening by like the 5th date, someone who’s open to kids but not as important as it was before, not religious. Idk it’s just I pick bits and pieces from people I went out with and just look for the opposite. Like a girl who only drank and had sex drive when only drunk and then a girl with no sex drive while learning that my sex drive can fluctuate where I have a few days of extra heat. It’s all learning and I’m thankful for all the girls who came into my life, it’s tough to let people go but it really makes me want to learn to better.
I’m turning 28 soon. So getting close to 30. Honestly my standards have not changed but, the hope of finding a relationship has gradually disappeared on me. Most people are not dating seriously. I used to date/see one person at a time as it develops a strong connection. Now however, people tend to date multiple people. Its not worth the risk of getting too invested anymore. Been there and done that resulting in getting hurt. I’m slowly changing to seeing multiple people with a casual outlook.
Of course it does. when you’re in your twenties , you think you want to date somebody in the 20s.
When you’re in your 30s, you know that your range has opened from age 20s to 50s, and you see a lot more variety of women that you could be interested in.
My heart has froze over due to the games women play and non commitment I have to deal with for dating these days. I’m skeptical if love is even a reality.
No difference. Hot, nice women who are pleasant to be around.
Unfortunately there is barely a difference between 30’s and teenagers.
It should change drastically for a guy in their teens when they get into their 20’s. Unfortunately there is barely a difference. There shouldn’t be as much difference between 20’s & 30’s since both should be looking for a woman in their 20’s to marry and start a family with. But again, unfortunately, the 30’s are barely any different than the teens. That is why the birthrates, at least in western societies, is below what is needed to sustain the population.
When I was young 30’s was considered « old » and someone in their 30’s would have kids that were school age already. The kids were in High School & College when the parents were in their 40’s and they were grandparents by the time they hit 50.
Late 20s, been reliably dating progressively more attractive 21 year old girls through my 20s.
Standards haven’t really changed. Although women seem to. It’s more apparent how some just don’t age well. Like a 28 year old that looks 36. How the hell does that happen?
And there’s SO many single moms. Holy shit.