Dating : Having one night stands without smoking?
I was a bit hesitant to make this post, but I hope the situation is understandable.
I was a weed smoker before and I am usually attracted to these type of « hippie » girls who usually smoke weed. When i met some girl I liked out at a club, party etc, I usually asked them at the end of the night « Hey do you want to head back to my place and smoke a joint? ».
The response has been 100% yes (even if we did not end up smoking), and have always lead to sex (and sometimes short lasting relationships). I think it worked so well since its a specific fun activity to do together at the end of the night, and acts as an « excuse » to go home together. Its a natural environment for sex to happen, but it still not what you are directly asking for.
Now I im not that into smoking anymore (mainly because its hindering my full potential as a person). When i dont have access to weed I have no idea what im gonna ask a girl i meet to come to my place. « Do you want a cup of tea » just dont seem to cut it. If i had asked these girls « Do you wanna go home to me and fuck? » i think the response rate would be 100% no.
As you see, I found a method that really worked, but its not long term. To be dependent on a drug for getting sex is still drug dependency, and i feel I shouldn’t need any excuse to have sex. I feel sort of embarrassed writing this, but it also feels good to get it out. I wonder if anyone has been in a similar situation and know what I could do to get healthier sex habits? Thanks for reading