Dating : He didn’t text back so I deleted his number. Was that harsh?
I’m at the point in my dating life where I’m kinda getting over boys right now and am focusing on school and work. Dating is my last priority at the moment so I feel like if I’m gonna date a guy then he needs to properly court me in order for me to stay interested. So I was talking to a guy for a few days and he wanted to take me out this weekend. So we’ve been messaging back and forth, kinda getting to know each other. The conversation was going well and I like to think I’m an interesting person. Then suddenly he doesn’t reply back and goes a whole day without contacting me. It didn’t really bother me because as I said, I need someone to court me in order for me to stay interested. So I ended up deleting the text thread and his number (although his number was never saved). Was I being too harsh on the guy or is this just me having higher standards? I know that sometimes I can be bad at responding but I feel like if a guy is that interested and genuinely wants to take me out then he’d let me know he was busy or had something to do before going MIA. Especially before our supposed date because as of now I have made other plans for the weekend due to his inconsistency.
As a guy, the bad at replying excuse it bullshit. Either you reply or you dont, and I give up quick if I’m the only one trying. You cant expect guys to jump thru hoops for you before you even meet
Yeah a couple texts then delete it, don’t block them. You’re putting the ball in their court and protecting yourself from drunk texting.
I think its a little harsh. text communication can be finicky. Did you ask him a question and he didn’t reply or was there nothing else to be said on the topic. Maybe he felt he was texting to much and didn’t want to appear over eager. I do think there needs to be a balance in who texts first and how often, but yeah its hard.
So, i’d shoot him another text, ask a specific question, not Just « hey you. » If he responds great, if not then you at least know you tried.
I don’t think that’s bad at all. If I don’t want to ruminate on whether or not he’s going to respond or not, I delete the thread and leave it up to them to see if they’re going to pursue me. I think you did the right thing!
You sound full of yourself. So you expect a guy to “court” you, but what are you bringing to the table?
Guy dodged a bullet.