Dating : He said he has a crush on me but now he’s acting really weird (22f and 23m)
A month ago, my close friend of 2 years caught me off guard with a confession that he likes me. I didn’t take him seriously first because he was phrasing it quite jokingly but I kept pushing to ask if he was serious and he gave an answer like “if you’re down then sure”. The first week after this, we spoke everyday over message and he was being too intense for my liking. Every time he would say something about spending our life together I’d just ignore that part of the message and keeps he conversation going. I mention I need time but I never mentioned whether I was actually interested. He got the hint that he was being too forward after we went a whole weekend not speaking.
Now, he’s a lot more chilled and we still talk everyday. He still hints majorly that he wants to be with me and I can say that I’ve started to catch feelings. However, this might just be because of exams, but whenever I flirt with him he says something ridiculous like “sorry I have a wife”. Like he’s scared of rejection or misinterpreting. Last night we phoned for hours and every time I’d dig into him about who he likes he would say we can speak about it when finals are over. Just before we got off the phone, we had a bit of an intense flirting sesh where he asked if I want to be his *insert any female half of a TV couple* and I was like hmm perhaps and I ended the call for effect. An hour later I messaged him saying I’ll b his *other half* and he messaged back “I’m gay sorry” . Why is he being difficult when I actually like him back??
Also I mentioned something along the lines of going on a date and he simply made the “candice” joke (tiktok trend). It’s actually playing with my emotions at this point.
TLDR: friend confessed his crush on me and now that I’m reciprocating he doesn’t know how to act
Wow he’s 23? He’s kind of acting like a highschooler and it’s cringe to read. Sounds like you’ve done your half of the deal and he can either make it happen or you can move on. Or you can put in even more effort if you want and make it clear as day what your intentions are.
Are you sure this guy is 23? I couldn’t even finish reading this cringe…
I’d say trust your gut feminine feelings, your internal sirens are clearly blaring. I think he’s not being himself and doing it because he’s afraid of rejection. If this is his true nature and he’s not putting on a show to impress you, ask yourself if he is dating material and go from there.
Or you can also straight out say « I like you » if you really mean it. Once again as a guy I appreciate girls who are upfront like this. Best of luck!
He knew you needed more time, but he doesn’t know that you’re ready to take things more seriously. Things like hanging up on him probably doesn’t help. Your signs might not be as obvious to him as they seem to you.
It’s time for a serious heart to heart discussion about what you’re both feeling.