Dating : I’m consistently having doubts and in my head a lot today. Do I say something or just keep it to myself?
So I’m a 24/f I reconnected with a guy I went to college with who’s 27 about two weeks ago. He’s been just asking for me to give him a fair shot, he’s had a thing for me for a while. I eventually agreed to dinner with him two Sunday’s ago so we can catch up and talk about what we wanted. We ate dinner, talked in my car for over two hours and made second “date” plans.
It turns out, I actually really like him. We text just about 24/7.
The problem is he lives two hours away. I vocalized my concerns and he said we could just work through it and it’ll be fine. I also told him about how I’m beginning a new job and so forth. He wants to just make it work. I’m a chronic overthinker so I figured I’d just chill out with time. We talked about this before I agreed to dinner and at dinner. He’s just sooooo optimistic everything will be fine and work out.
I was on vacation last week, this week I have a major eye infection so I couldn’t see him. On Monday, I begin a new job. Right now, I don’t really know when I’m going to see him but I want to figure something out. Next weekend, he leaves for vacation. He now also may have a new job, he’s currently a cop but possibly may be moving to a federal position.
I’ve been in my head about this all day thinking nonstop about how this is kind of a “right person, wrong time” type of deal. If I bring it up he’s going to just be positive and confident it’ll work out and everything’s fine. I also think I’m at the point where my thinking could just push him away because he’s called me out on a few things – the most recent being he knows I’m afraid to let myself actually like him.
Do I need to bring this up with him or just keep it to myself? I REALLY need to learn how to chill out and relax. I like him, I don’t want to end things but right now, I don’t know what I want or what the right thing to do is.
either you go with the flow, stay positive and make an effort to make time to get together. it takes 2 people for it to work. if hes going to make time and you’re not(or can’t) then its not going to work(and vice versa). otherwise if you are indecisive it seems like you already want this to end.
I’ve done several long and long ish(two hour drive) relationships. My advice is decide for yourself if you could move there or not. Based on that, just give it to him straight and get that cleared up. « I’m interested in something more, but the only way this will work is if you’re moving here in the long run » or something along those lines.