Dating : Hesitant to talk to girls
Currently I’m in the military at what we call the school house where we learn our military job before we head to our first unit in the fleet. There are lots of beautiful girls here and my natural desire is to hit on them and ultimately have a romantic/sexual relationship with them. However, it’s not a good time to get in a relationship because we are here to learn our job, and we are only here for a short time (few months in my case).
I’ve really started on trying to become the best version of myself by starting nofap (3 weeks I’m so far), going to the gym, becoming more organized and making new guy friends/going out .
Here’s my problem. I want a relationship but realize now is not the time. If I did 1, it would end when we graduate and be sent to two completely different parts of the world and that would plain suck. 2 I want to talk to all these girls I find attractive but I don’t want to end up catching feelings for one. Here on base we can get negative paperwork for any sort of PDA and you can’t bring anyone of the opposite gender in your room or you’ll both be f*cked.
Now keep in mind I am a virgin whose never had a relationship, I’m 21 and I’m craving having one.
Currently I haven’t been talking to an of the girls that have caught my attention and I keep seeing them checking me out. Im tired of the insane tension I feel when i run into these girls and acting oblivious to what’s happening to keep myself from catching feeling for her because it’s basically impossible to have a relationship here. I don’t even want a one night stand, I want a meaningful one.
TLDR I want a meaningful relationship and to fulfill my desire for sex but can’t because I’m student status in the military with strict dating policies and about to leave in a few months. I hate ignoring girls I like and am wondering what y’all think I should do.
I’ve seen people meet someone and get married in tech school to stay together. You don’t have time to get to know anyone in a few months to have a relationship and know if it could last.
You’re doing it right. You know yourself and know you have the personality of someone who could fall in love easy.
Don’t risk it. Focus on your career, get to your first base. There will be plenty of time to go out and meet girls once you get there. Get through school, get settled in your new job, then go hit the town.
Take care.
What’s the harm in talking to them and getting to know them? I think you should talk to them and see what’s out there lol. Practice boundaries and constraints. And just be careful to not catch feelings that’s too deep you can’t escape if it doesn’t work out.