Dating : His crazy ex…
F23 was seeing M32.
Guy I was talking to and getting serious with had to stop seeing me because his crazy ex turned stalkerish, so he told me didn’t want me to get dragged into that drama and would keep me away till it’s sorted, especially because he has kids with her.
It has been 3 weeks.
Have I lost him forever?
> Have I lost him forever?
Good lord lets hope so.
Maybe it’s better to ask yourself: « For what parts in this drama is he responsible? » And, « What did he learn from it? »
And based on those answers ask yourself: « Is it still smart to be with this guy? »
Oh boy. You’re going to need to sit down for this….
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OP your story sounds *similar* to many stories shared by « *I found out I was the other woman »* OPs.
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You have to consider the possibility that he was never single and he was with her, then pretended to be single, to meet you.
Sounds like he has a wife and was using you to cheat.
He is right – to not to drag you into this entire drama.
I wouldn’t think in terms of « forever » but … it seems that even if things work out at this time, a bumpy ride awaits if you go ahead with the potential relationship. the crazy ex will be always in his life because of the kid. things will never get entirely sorted because she is … crazy and undpredictable. you are super young and the entire life is ahead of you. I think this guy just wants to protect you and spare you lots of stress and heartache in the future by withdrawing. It might be wiser to just move on.
If his ex is so “crazy”, you have to ask yourself what made him decide to have a long term relationship with her and have multiple children together…..and yeah, you might actually be the side chick so watch out for that.
These type of things take a long time to sort out, even three weeks doesn’t seem very long enough, especially if they have kids that he cares about. It might seem like it’s been a lifetime, but as long as you guys have at least texted or called during this time, I’m sure he will come back and things will be back to normal unless things get extremely out of hand. Just chilllllllll out