Dating : I Don’t Understand why People (Men Mostly) Respond to the Idea of Trans People Dating with Borderline Violence. (It’s not Like is Fuck you Anyways)
It’s one thing not to be interested in a set of genitalia, to not know what you’re taking about, or to want someone who can provide children. It is another to freak out at trans people who are frustrated at their lack of dating progress as though they are engaging in some sort of sexually predatory behavior. I mean the amount of “honest responses” I’ve seen on this thread alone tells me that beating the shit out of a “tranny” for even being present in dating spaces in considered a reasonable response. So when a trans person is upset about themselves being alone. I’ve seen people (especially men) react in extraordinarily violent patterns. Basically treating this person who has very likely been incredibly abused and damaged by this process as though they are engaging in a behavior as bad as pedophillia is just obscene. I tried to link a recent study below but judging by the article in question (on psychology today, if you interested). I think the word “non-human” really captures how a lot of these borderline sociopathic people tend to behave. I’m not saying anyone needs to date me. But treating me like some sort of sex offender because I use the same dating mechanisms as everyone else (the only ones available to me) makes you a horrendous bigot and does untold damage to people mental health (which you probably then will just blame on them being trans so you don’t have to take responsibility for your actions)
I cant speak for everyone but its kind of an issue.
If Im straight, the dating site or app will show me women, and vice versa the women would see me. If I were gay, it would show me men and so on. Trans people do whatever they want and Im sorry but that leaves a lot of masculine women to a disadvantage these days lol
Youve got to understand that most of the world isnt on board with your condition and while many trans folks are up front with their persona, many others are not and would in fact rather play themselves off as the opposite sex biologically and that *is* predatory. Its a risky game, be honest with people and try to come to terms with the reality of how people are going to react.
Its wrong to persue a straight man as a transwoman if he doesnt immediately know youre trans. Full stop. You have a mental condition, and just like everyone else with one, you need to be open about it with the people you involve yourself with romantically. I know, sucks for you, but its unfair to the rest of the world…
Since we are generalizing if your a trans women (man to women)? then attempt to date men your chance are going to be very very very low. But that’s one very average person’s opinion you’ll find someone the more honest you are I think.
People who respond violently to trans people on dating apps are insecure idiots.
I’ve matched with a few trans people before, and honestly, although my main preference is women (I’m a heterosexual man), I wouldn’t necessarily be against dating a trans woman. I’ve considered it before. But even in passing conversation on these apps, trans people have told me their struggles so I definitely can see where you’re coming from.
I don’t quite get it either why people get so violently angry at it, maybe they just have fragile egos?
OP this is r/dating.
Probably one of the lowkey most hostile subreddits on the site.
Misogyny. Transmisogyny. You name it.
I mean if you want to pick a fight with angry men this is the place. But other than that no good comes of this cursed place
« borderline sociopathic people » lol
Remember when everyone was upset about « being gay » coming into the limelight? Yeah, people lost their shit.
Now people are changing genders/trying to look like the opposite sex (even performing surgery to alter their parts). People are once again losing their shit.
Just give it time. Personally I don’t care what you do to your body or how you live your life. Some CDs/TGs are even « cute », but I’m still hetero and like biological women.
The only thing that « pisses me off » is when people get offended because of what pronoun I use or if I treat you like a guy (hey, I’m going to – that’s my right just like altering yourself is yours). Half the time I don’t even know someone’s transitioning – they look like a guy so I treat them as such. I’ve gotten some really hateful stares for saying ‘dude’ or ‘man’ when talking to TG people. Hell I say dude or man even when talking to women – it’s how I talk. THESE people piss me off, not people living their life how they want to.
Straight men usually give consent on the assumed condition that you are a ciswoman. Since that condition is broken, it’s not exactly consensual, is it? Now how would you react when you’re in that circumstance of an encounter without your consent?