Dating : Honest opinion: is it socially acceptable to approach women in a book store?
Forgive me if the title makes it sound like I’m targeting women in my local Waterstones, what I meant to ask is would it be appreciated if I say, spotted a girl (woman, I’m 21) looking a book I’ve read or know of and use it to start a conversation?
I ask that because there’s been a few time recently where I’ve been browsing my favourite sections and I’ve encountered a few women I’d have otherwise tried to strike up a conversation with if it was socially acceptable.
I’m sorry if this comes across as weird or unacceptable, I’m not terribly well versed with approaching women thanks to my social anxiety and various other issues.
That’s certainly not a socially unacceptable way to start a conversation, much better than going off of nothing but her looks, but just don’t be that guy that hangs out in a bookstore all day looking to start a conversation with a woman because the store might catch on.
Do it! The worst thing that can happen is she says no. Rejection isn’t as bad as the fear of rejection. You will feel better knowing you tried rather than wondering “what if?”
Good luck!!
Hell yeah. Approach women anywhere you want. Just ask them how they are doing. If they give one word answers move on.
I once got a freelance writing gig (back when they paid real money and not exposure) doing this exact thing when she turned out to be a newspaper editor. Go for it.
Do it… Spark up conversation and make a connection; simple.
(Remember, all of us are here because two people had a conversation…)
I think it would only be unacceptable if you don’t give a crap about books and are just there to flirt with women. If books are your thing, by all means strike up a conversation. They may be happy you did, as they’d love to discuss them/connect with someone that likes them too.
Yes! Confidence is everything, if you’re confident doesn’t matter where you are she’ll see that and be intrigued by you. Only place I think is a bit of a no no would be the gym. When women are there they are usually being checked out by other guys and just want to go about their business and get their workout in. Plus they can be concerned about their imagine i.e. sweaty, smelly, hair doesn’t look good, etc…
I don’t see anything wrong with engaging someone if it feels appropriate at the time. I can usually tell if someone is open to being spoken to or not. Are they in a rush trying to make a quick purchase? Are they engrossed in a book? Or are they casually browsing and looking around? Smile, make eye contact. You should be able to feel it out.
Go, go, go. It will allow you to skip past all the small talk where you try to find something in common. Just be aware of how they react, if they seem like they don’t want to talk, then know how to end the conversation.
Just don’t end up like that You show on Netflix. Please no.
Don’t see why not
It’s totally okay in my eyes! If books are a shared interest between you two, then they’re a great conversation starter 🙂
Off-topic, but this question kind of reminds me of The Office, when Dwight and Andy went to a bookstore to pick up women, and ended up going to a roller rink instead, haha
Yes
Yes do it
No
Are you in the UK? In the US it would definitely be acceptable, if only because small talk is much more accepted here. But small talk between strangers is not so accepted in the UK, so it would seem to be much less acceptable for men to approach women in a book store.
If you are attractive
Only if you’re attractive.