Dating : How can i get my boyfriend to do a STD test?
I’m a virgin and my boyfriend is sexually active. he told me he’s lost count over how many girls he had sex with. I brought up std’s to him and he assured me he has always used condoms and that he is perfectly healthy but has never done an std test in his life.
this worries me because i am very paranoid about std’s and havent had sex with him yet mostly for that reason. We have had penis-vagina contact as in the tip touching me there but nothing more than that.
So my question is… how can i get him to do a test without offending him? he is a very understanding person but i feel scared to actually tell him to get a test before we have sex. Any advice?
Just bring it up as it is. If he respects you and wants to be long term with you he will get checked without any complaints.
Plus some stuff is transmitted through oral sex as well, and I doubt he used condom for that as well
Just ask, if he refuses. He’s not worth keeping because lying coward
i think it’s best to just be straight up about it. if he respects you and your health at all, he will do it
Agree with all the mentionned above.
You can also ask him to go together to do it. So you will also be tested. Even being a virgin doesn’t impeach to get oral or labial (mouth ones) herpes or such.
But if he refuses always, that definitely ain’t a good guy
Just tell him that it’s not about whether or not you trust him, there just isn’t a way to know for sure unless you get tested. Even if he doesn’t feel anything, he could have an STD without being symptomatic.
This is good practice for establishing boundaries. Not having sex before an STI test is a normal and healthy boundary.
You might also want to analyze why you are feeling scared to discuss this with your boyfriend.
If you can’t even ask him to do this then how do you think you will handle big problems together? If your relationship is supposed to work, this is your first test. No pun intended.
Just tell him no test = no sex. Don’t ignore the red flag and catch an STD