Dating : How Can I Get My Confidence Back?
Hi all,
I (M,27) have been in two very serious relationships for long periods of time and have probably been single for 5 months in my entire adult life. My first LTR (5.5 years) ended with my partner cheating on me relentlessly for months before breaking up with me. They were emotionally and physically abusive to me and l was pretty shattered by it. My latest relationship I ended because once again it was emotionally abusive. Within a month my partner was dating other people and sleeping with them (we had to live together and I had to have it rubbed in my face everyday). Needless to say I am totally shattered right now.
At this point I don’t know how to gain some confidence. I have pretty bad social anxiety, which doesn’t help matters. I have learned how to manage it pretty well, but the fear of approaching someone is very real. I tried OLD, but my stock is pretty love as I am probably like a 6 in the looks department and a pretty odd guy in general. I am just kind of hurting for companionship and connection right now (and also sex!). Anyone else been here? How did you gain some confidence around dating? How has your life changed since you were where I am? I appreciate you reading this far!
Whoa back up a bit here.
*Within a month my partner was dating other people and sleeping with them (we had to live together and I had to have it rubbed in my face everyday).*
This requires a bit of reflection. So what in the actual fuck was going on here and what was your role in this whole damn mess?