Dating : How do I find out what’s wrong with me
I don’t know why but girls think I’m physically attractive, funny and think I have cool interests, but for some reason after the first date they always reject me, in my 23 years of life only once in high school has things worked out for me, but that wasn’t real love.
I just went on a digital date with a girl I had been texting for 1 week, it was awkward a little but I didn’t think it was overly bad. I made her laugh a lot, I asked her questions, I listened to her, it seemed like all was well, but this morning I got the text “you were perfect but no I don’t want to get to know you” and honestly it hurt really bad. We were getting along so well over text and I behaved the same way I do over text in the date.
I get the same sentiment often, you seem like a great guy but it always is a no, no second chance, nothing. I just want to know how to find out why this keeps happening
Ask her. Tell her you keep getting shot down and you don’t know where your going wrong. So if she could give you some feedback to help you with future dates.
We cant know cuz we havemt oberve your text nor u talking to girl in person. Get a dating coach
I’m sorry to hear that:(
I don’t know you or know your path or how you act with girls so I’m going to point out something that’s really general. From talking to girls, something that can turn them off is when a guy doesn’t have a set career path or goal. This can make them feel like you’re not going to be a good provider for a future family or whatever. Another thing can be not being dominant enough? It sounds weird but it’s just something girls can pick up on and it can be a turn off or turn on. This is just food for thought.
Are you taking initiative to set up first dates or do you wait for the girl to make the move? Do you even make plans or do you just aimlessly drive around? Those are two specific pet peeves of mine that will instantly lose you points.
Other possibilities:
1. You are boring and/or not a good conversationalist
2. You complain about your life
3. You lack confidence
4. You ask/say weird things
5. You are not dominant enough
“Digital date” sounds more lazy than aimless driving around dates. Sounds boring af. No, Covid is not an excuse if you’re in the states. Take her on a picnic at the park or something if you don’t want to be around people