Dating : How do i kiss her on our second hike/date?
Hi kind stranger,
thanks for reading my struggle. TL/DR at the end!
I met a girl a few years ago and we texted once every year for a few weeks. We lost contact and I messaged her again in February. For the next 4 months we wrote very long texts once every 7 – 14 days. While texting she seemed extremely friendly and we got a nice connection. Unfortunately we couldn’t meet because she is studying in another city.
I found out that she likes to hike in the mountains, which is an activity that I wanted to start for months before i messaged her. So we met each other for a hike onto a mountain (we didn’t call it a date though). It was amazing! I loved the view on top of the mountain and we had some really deep and amazing conversations. In the end she obviously enjoyed the trip as much as I did.
This was about 6 weeks ago. Since then we wrote in a quicker interval than before (about 2-3 days) and sometimes she sent a picture that included a part of her body or a picture of her together with members of her family that were related to the topics we were texting about. For example she sent me a photo of her and her sister and one with her parents on a mountain when she told me about a great hike they were currently doing.
And now we are going to meet each other on Saturday to walk up the same mountain as we did the last time.
I have had a small crush on her since we started texting again which intensified when we met. On our way down she dropped a hint that let me know that she is single and when I did the same she seemed a bit different for the rest of the hike, but in a positive way. One hour after I went home she texted me and asked for the picures that I took of us.
I have only had one longtime relationship before, so I am really inexperienced with dating. I would really like to kiss her on Saturday but I’m not sure how I can achieve this.
My idea would be to make some casual body contact while walking up. When we are on the peak and enjoy the romantic view, I’m going to show her some pictures on my phone. I will need to move closer to her for doing so and my arm will find its way around her shoulders. Then I will look her deeply in the eyes and say something like « Hey (her name), there is nothing in the world that I would enjoy more right now than kissing you – if you allow (friendly grin)
I’m pretty confident that she is at least a bit interested in me, but besides some hints I think that I figured out there is no solid evidence. She definitely likes me and enjoys spending time with me but I’m not sure how she feels about me.
Do you have any other ideas or tipps that you can tell me?
I really want to have cartainty if I have a chance to make her my gf, or if I’m already in the friendzone.
TL/DR:
Climbed a mountain with my crush and will be doing it again on Saturday. Need advice on how to kiss her.
I would do what you said but leave out that line. Read her body language when you guys have contact with each other. Don’t force a kiss move in slowly and if you see she’s not going for it dont do it. The last thing you want is to kiss her when she doesn’t want to cuz then things get bad from there.
Don’t rush it, I went to kiss the girl I’m dating on the cheek at the end of our second date, she sort of met me half way and we kissed on the lips.
Like someone else said, you need to read her body language.
Dont overthink it. Just wait until you have a bit of intimacy, tell her you really like her and ask if she would like a kiss. Having the balls to actually go for it is 99% of the work.