Dating : How do I know that she is really interested?
It all started in a greater group when I just said that I would like to eat ice cream. So she asks me a few hours later if we should meet the next day to eat some ice cream.
I think it was a good “date”? She mentioned her Ex boyfriend in a short notice (was this a hint?) but we talked and laughed pretty much.
Now I’m writing with her but her replies are often late and sometimes even a day later. As we have both much to do in college I can understand this reaction.
But what if she is not interested and thus she doesn’t really want to write with me?
Any girls out there who can help me?
Heres my take: Don’t spend too much time texting. Spend that time setting up REAL dates to go on where you can have actual conversation.
Texting is fine but honestly, it’s pretty boring. Nothing interesting happens over text and if you have any sort of life or responsibilities texting the same stuff over and over just gets old.
I would suggest asking if she wants to hang out with you again. Just like that, very blunt. « Would you like to go out on a date with me this weekend? » The importance of using the word DATE is because you are clearly letting her know what your intentions are: To date. Not to be friends, not to be friend zoned. To be a BF. That involves kissing and fucking. That’s where you want to end up, so you need to be direct with what you want, but not in a creepy way, obviously.
So when you ask, don’t leave any wiggle room in the response. If she says yes, set up something. Then just leave it. You don’t need to text about boring things like the weather or TV. Just leave all of that for an actual conversation where you can dive deep. If you text and run through material, what are you going to discuss when you’re together?
If she says she’s not sure, then tell her, « That’s ok, I’ll text you later towards this weekend to see if you’re available. » Then stop texting her. You come off as needy and as if you need her in your life and it’s a turn off.
I’d start there. Then work on your own life, because this woman isn’t here to take up most of your life right? You have your own life and regardless of whether she stays in it you’re living your life. Right? Right. So you don’t need to be glued to your phone wanting to connect with that. You need to be living and setting up actual dates to make real progress.
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Best of luck dude.
If she were interested, she probably wouldn’t be mentioning the ex and she would be responding more proactively. She may just want to keep you on the hook/have you as a friend/get some male attention.
Source: am female, have lots of friends who played those games because they are lonely or have low self esteem.