Dating : How do i progress with my date?
So about 2 months ago i met this girl. She liked me, we chatted now and then via text, not that often, but i liked her as well. We have the same mutual friends, so we were seeing each other about 2 times a week. Then after about a month and a half she stopped liking me. I asked her out(didn’t know that she didn’t like me) and she agreed to the date saying: « Yesss, that’d be fun » Of course, I was excited but a few days later heartbroken when i was told that she didn’t have any feelings towards me anymore. We went on our first date, it was really fun(she had also told friends that she had a lot of fun as well), we talked all the time, all kinds of conversations, even personal ones. When the date ended she just said: « Let me hug you » and we had a really decent and quite long hug (we always have these hugs when we see each other). So this is the confusing part. She said to a friend that she would give me a chance, if she doesn’t feel a spark again after a few dates, then that’s life. (We also had stopped texting because she really just hates texting and is almost never on social media). So what should I do?
Thank you.
She said she’ll try a few dates and if there’s no spark then that’s it. Pretty fair of her I’d say
Just try not to get your hopes up, there’s other women
I’m guessing that there’s nothing you can do to make « progress ». She seems to be not into you as a romantic partner. Long hugs don’t mean a ton romantically, and you can have fun with friends. And take it from me, a girl opening up about personal stuff is not an indication of anything, unless by personal stuff you mean sexual things. Because I get people to open up to me all the time, girls will tell me stuff they’ve never told anyone else. Yes, that means they trust you, but I’ve learned the hard way that trust does not equal sexual or romantic interest by any means.
Some people just don’t click romantically, and this is almost certainly a case of that. You have a few dates to try to change her mind, but honestly you really can’t do much other than be yourself.
I’m not sure if she told you what she said to her friend, or if that friend told you but my guess is if she said that she’s made up her mind and only a grand gesture or something extraordinary will change her mind, and in all honesty it’s not on you to provide that.
Just chalk it up as a loss and learn from it, is my advice.