Dating : How do you find someone that has their act together and it isn’t just an act?
Sorry for the bad title, I do not know how to exactly word it.
Basically the last bunch of women that I’ve dated all ended up having some deep issues that come out a month or two into the relationship (sometimes later). It ranges anywhere from extreme dad/mom issues, severe depression and suicide attempts or romanticizing it, overly attention seeking to other guys, excuses to be mean (im just a straight forward person kind of thing), and so much more. I’ve always had the mentality that it doesn’t matter, I’ll be there to support them. But now I don’t care so much, I want to be selfish. I’ve put myself through enough stress and hell and it’s way to much work. Eventually it just becomes such a turn off and takes more away from the actual relationship. I work really hard to keep my life together and to be in a good place, I would like to find someone in a similar position. I just want a cute quiet girl that wears sun dresses and will garden and run with me damnit.
I understand everyone has something wrong with them and etc , but there are levels to this. I never had a problem before, but now that I’m back in the dating world things have been rough. Everyone seems to need to be taken care of.