Dating : How does anyone with a girlfriend have real problems?
Other then medical related issues.
I can’t see how I could seriously complain about anything if I had a girlfriend
30m virgin, never had a girlfriend.
I see these BEAUTIFUL women, even average looking women, and I’m like « That girl is in someones life, how does he not feel like the luckiest man on earth literally all the time »
Every problem in my life, it just feels so inconsequential to the problem of being alone, I hate everything about life and If i just had a girlfriend I don’t think I could seriously be sad about anything
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What is it like, how is life with a happy relationship not just constant fairytale amazing fantasy land 24/7?
I don’t want to come as an asshole, but imma tell you right now that you seem very naive. And that’s surprising because you’re 30 years old. A grown man. When it comes to relationships, there’s always going to be problems and therefore moments when you’re angry at each other, annoyed or possibly even hate them. Couples will always argue and fight. Personally, I feel very lucky to have my girlfriend. She’s very attractive and a great person. And so many other people feel the same. But we’re all human beings with emotions and no one is ever going to be 100% compatible with their significant other. That’s how life is.
I do apologize in advance if by any chance I misinterpreted your post, but based on what I gathered, this is my response
Thing is, your problem now is if you ever got a girlfriend, you would be terrified of losing her and your life would not be a constant fairytale amazing fantasy land 24/7. You would act very needy in the relationship and that will scare her off big time. I know cause I was like you once. Thought a relationship would fix everything in my life. But it doesn’t. It’s fun, and dating and spending time together and enjoying physical and emotional intimacy is fun and amazing. But it’s only one part of your life. You need to be happy with the person you are before another person will love you.
People can lie, cheat, steal, be controlling, financially or sexually abuse you, or assault someone and you’re family might not like them and this causes family problems….so.
I am a female and not that I would ever do this but relationships DO NOT SOLVE PROBLEMS.
Because life isn’t a fantasy land. And not all relationships are healthy. Having a partner doesn’t mean mental health issues and insecurities go away either.
Not every relationship is good. My last relationship I had 99 problems and she was all of them.
What’s up with these /r/ForeverAlone posts on this sub recently….
Relationships have up and downs like any other things in life.
You say that cause you’ve never had a girlfriend. Women can be a pain in the ass.
Life isnt all pony’s and rainbows. Even in a relationship.
Work, school, health, family, money problems – all of these are stressful with or without a girlfriend. Also sometimes a relationship can be toxic no matter how pretty the girl is that you are dating.
I went out with this gorgeous women for about a year and a half. During that year and a half she punched me in the face on six different occasions, multiple times each punch because she didn’t like the words coming out of my mouth. She also bit me, clawed me, shredded a shirt I was wearing, told me once she was having sex with her ex boyfriend (she was lying about it as I went to her apartment to get my belongings and she was in there by herself), and abused me in other ways. Now it was only really bad about 12-20 days out of the 540 days we were together. Her ex was constantly trying to get her back and was the reason for 99% of our fights. He never got her back, but he was the reason for our last fight, which also broke us up.
Wow honestly sounds like you watched way too many Disney movies. This is not a fairy tale this is real life all couples eventually have issues to work out. My advice learn to be happy with what you have now (with yourself) because if you can’t handle life now trust me you totally won’t be able to handle a relationship. Sorry if that sounds a little cruel, but I firmly believe it as the truth. if life is hitting you in the feels now believe me if you get yourself in a relationship now and it doesn’t work it may crush you. You might not be ready yet and that is 100% okay no two people are exactly the same. Some go their entire life single and couldn’t imagine doing anything else. Too many people now compare themselves to people on social media. People need to stop and think about what they really need to help themselves instead of caring what people think and fulfilling their agenda.
Because people come from different experiences and disagree… and that can cause arguments and conflicts that need to be resolved. A gf is someone with her own thoughts and beliefs, some she will assert, some she won’t… she’s not just a cushion of comfort, make sense?its the same thing as when you’re arguing with family etc etc. Unless you’re a really big pushover, which is not attractive.