Dating : How long after hanging out should you wait for a guy to text you back?
Yesterday a guy from tinder who I had been chatting with here and there for a few days stopped by and brought me some cupcakes, which was really sweet. He stayed and chatted for an hour or so. I was really happily surprised by him, he was exactly my type. He’s intelligent, funny, sweet and he was wayyy more gorgeous in person. I wasn’t really expecting that and I was a tiny bit awkward (probably only in my head) and nervous because of it (as silly as that sounds!). But I actually think it went pretty decently, he and I have a lot of similar interests.
I never get anxious when it comes to men, because usually I am pretty confident, but for some reason this was different for me.
He hasn’t texted or snap chatted me yet, and I am so used to guys texting me right away after a date, or being the one to text first if I don’t care enough, that it feels funny to me. Apparently a lot of people wait a few days to text back, I’m just totally not used to that. I’m almost a little bummed out and wonder if my nervousness ruined it.
So, my questions: When do you typically text a girl after a date? Do you prefer for her to text you? And at what point should I just text him (or decide not to text at all?)
Thanks!
If you’ve been texting and chatting with him prior to hanging out, you should kind of know his texting pattern. Does he usually text you first ? How often do you guys text ? Is he shy ? Maybe he isn’t sure if he came off to strong by stopping by? No one can really know what he’s thinking or how he is because everyone is different.
I will say this though which may not get good responses. Most guys I dated who were really into me never hesitated to text me when they wanted to. I would legit get a follow up text immediately after the date. The guys who didn’t text me soon after dates (I had to text them after 2-3 days) or not as frequent (we wouldnt text daily or would go a few days without texting) I learned weren’t that into me even though on dates everything seemed fine.
But like I said everyone is different every relationship is different. It probably wouldn’t hurt to shoot him a text
>So, my questions: When do you typically text a girl after a date? Do you prefer for her to text you? And at what point should I just text him (or decide not to text at all?)
If it is a real date, then a few days later, and when I do it will not be to check in, it will be to set the next date. The phone is for setting dates,…the date is for « getting to know someone ».
However if she texts me I will never ignore it and will respond happily and be glad to hear from her.
But it doesn’t sound like you had a real date,…dropping by, is not a date. Now your title says « text you back », so him responding to a text you made there is no time limit on it. I’ve forgot my phone out in the car with a dead battery till the next morning,…I have also forgot it as work when I went home. I’ve spent hours on the road driving and couldn’t respond. I’ve been busy are work and can’t respond for hours. Getting a bunch of « good morning », « good night », « How’s your day going? » texts will potentially make me throw the phone across the room.