Dating : How often do you see your date? Am I overreacting?
Just wondering about everyone’s experiences and how often do you see person you have been dating? I have been dating person for 2.5 months and we see each other only once a week, usually Saturday or Sunday and we live 10 minutes away from each other. What are your experiences/thoughts?
First thought: If they’re making time for you on the weekends, you’re fine. I’d be more worried that you hang a lot during the week and then she disappears from Fri-Sun.
To answer your question, every 4-5 days with the woman I’m currently talking to. Usually Thurs/Sat evenings. I haven’t mustered up the courage to ask her out on one of her days off work yet. We have our 5th date planned for tomorrow evening. I’m honestly starting to feel like she is losing interest and will bail on our date tomorrow though, so keep that in mind.
Personal opinion is that if you want to see the other person more often, speak up and communicate that to them, that is the only way you will know for sure. I know this is a daunting task but you will feel so much better for it afterwards.
Unfortunately in my experience when a person only wants to see you once a week it means they are emotionally unavailable or just want a casual thing/FWB. If that’s what you want fine, but if it isn’t then make sure you aren’t being dragged into anything as this happens more easily than you think especially to females.
I’ve been dating someone for about 8 weeks. The first two-three weeks, we tried to see each other 3-4x a week, we live about 35min from each other.
Now his work schedule has changed, so we try to see each other 1-2x on the weekend. And given him and I both work west coast hours but live on the east coast (so working till 8pm) and he has to be up earlier than me, being out til 1-2am multiple times a week isn’t feasible.
We find other ways to interact when not together (lately we have been doing virtual movie nights 1-2x a week and sit in the phone throughout the movie).
If you want to see them more, try to plan a dinner date or happy hour date on a week night and gauge their response.